Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3

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Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 9:59am

A 2 year old and 17 month old twins. First she accomplished *that* through two surrogates! Wonderful what modern medicine can do.
Anyway, she doesnt work full time, she consults to several companies so is out of the home one full day then a few hours a day on other days. Sometimes for work, sometimes to go to the gym, etc.
She has a full time live in nanny, and two part time nannies. Essentially they always have someone with them and the kids. She feels she needs two to properly care for her three.
I immediately thought of all the comments her lifestyle would elicit from this board.
The day she and I met she had just come from a 2 hour session at the gym, and was then heading off to go do some shopping.
BTW, she's a complete rock star in industry, having 'retired' a year ago after a 30 year career that took her right up to the top of corporate America so she's definetly *earned* her right to do whatever the heck she wants.
But anyway, she feels she is a super hands on mom. I was curious what others would think?

MM

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 2:16pm
Trumpet. My grandfather played the saxophone professionally. He was cooool.
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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 2:20pm
Actually a federal law mandates that all public schools provide sped. The law is called IDEA, I think. I don't remember what it stands for. I can't say for sure, but I don't think there is any mandate on gifted programs. If not, that's why it would vary from district to district.

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 2:21pm

Our ES has an enrichment program, but I don't think they have a full-fledged GT program. I'm not sure about the HS.

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Two totally different programs requiring a totally different set of resources. Also, sped is mandated by the state ... not so for GT. Also sped is mandated by NCLB I believe, not so for GT.

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rofl. Gifted means high-paying job? That is so not true. Many of the gifted folk are 1) socially unable to play the office/corporate politics needed to become some high-powered, high-paying CEO or guru, or 2) are in academia or research, neither of which are anywhere close to a high-paying field, or 3) are artistically gifted, which is also not a high-paying field.

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 2:21pm

" i believe a really, truly gifted child has a gifted, very intelligent parent who is now some million dollar guru that can afford to pay for a private school instead of a homeschool sect."

First, what's a "homeschool sect"? Second, I'm sure that some highly gifted adults are rolling in the dough, but I'd wager there are quite a number of highly gifted adults who ended up in areas like theoretical physics, advanced mathematics or other sciences. The vast majority working in those fields don't come even close to making the big bucks, however gifted they might be.

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 2:34pm

Check out this link. http://www.gifteddevelopment.com/

To quote from it -- "What is giftedness all about? To me, it isn't a straight-A average or getting into an Ivy League college. It isn't the potential for a place in history or a 6-figure salary. Certainly, people who rise to stardom in childhood or adult life are often gifted, but most gifted people do not seek or achieve fame. "

And "Gifted adults often face unique career challenges. Job environments rarely reward creativity, a hallmark of the gifted, and frequently punish anyone who threatens to color outside the lines. " -- from http://www.newhrjobs.com/career-tools/34646.php

And "Gifted adults (people with a very high intelligence; 2% of the population) sometimes are not able to function adequately at work. Their high intelligence can cause them to dysfunction when adapting to the work situation, sometimes leading to absenteeism and disability. " -- http://www.sengifted.org/articles_adults/Nauta_GiftedAdultsInWork.shtml

Also "Unfortunately, evidence is mounting that youthful brilliance in one or more areas does not always translate into adult satisfaction and accomplishment in working life." and "Some of the implications of multipotentiality can be seen in bright adults who, despite excellent performance in most jobs, hold multiple positions in short time periods and experience a general feeling of lack of fit in most jobs. Some experience feelings of alienation, purposelessness, depression, and apathy despite high performance and excellent evaluations. Some experience periods of unemployment and underemployment, or they fall behind same-age peers in career progress and sometimes social development (marriage, family, community involvement)." -- from http://www.kidsource.com/kidsource/content/career_planning.html

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 2:40pm

More often than not I've noticed, if both parents are working, it is more because both parents NEED to work for personal reasons and personal goals, not for financial ones.

you must live in a totally different world than i do. i think i know 1 possibly 2 people who fit that, almost all of the people i know where both parents work it is to provide a home, food, shelter and an occassional fun thing for thier families. they work because they financially need the money.
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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 2:42pm

Many private schools here do not have gifted programs.

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 2:53pm
i have to agree that i think what you read here is what people truly feel - they have no reason/need to hide behind some pc attitude. having been accused of hyberbolizing, exxagerating, etc. by okie on other topics i can see why she wouldnt believe posters about their feelings on this isue either. i guess i tend to take people at their word.
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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 2:56pm
Umm, that sentence doesn't work without the rest of the paragraph. What you miss otherwise is that I am talking about the parents of a gifted child who are currently homeschooling that child (and they both WOH). In the big picture, it is a pretty select segment of the population.
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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 2:59pm

The experts at Merriam-Webster diasgree with you.

Main Entry: 2pre·school
Pronunciation: 'prE-"skül
Function: noun
: NURSERY SCHOOL, KINDERGARTEN
Main Entry: nursery school
Function: noun
: a school for children usually under five years
Main Entry: kin·der��gar·ten
Pronunciation: 'kin-d&(r)-"gär-t&n, -d&n
Function: noun
Etymology: German, from Kinder children + Garten garden
: a school or class for children usually from four to six years old

Main Entry: day care
Function: noun
1 : supervision of and care for children or disabled adults that is provided during the day by a person or organization
2 : a program, facility, or organization offering day care

Preschool implies that education is inherent in the program. There is no guarantee of that in day care, as evidenced by Webster's very definition of day care. Moreover, decent preschools have teachers certified in early childhood education, which is NOT a requirement for day care--any yahoo w/o a criminal record can work in a day care facility, I see the ads all the time in the newspaper under childcare. Moreover, preschool is for ages 3-5, day care begins at age six weeks and up.

It is important to me that the program my son is in isn't called day care b/c it isn't day care. It is an early childhood education program through our local school district taught by ECE or SPED certified teachers (most with Masters degrees plus). I call a spade a spade and my son attends preschool, not day care. To state otherwise is like me saying the sky is green, when it is obviously blue. But hey--if the sky is green in your world, more power to you.

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