Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3

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Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 9:59am

A 2 year old and 17 month old twins. First she accomplished *that* through two surrogates! Wonderful what modern medicine can do.
Anyway, she doesnt work full time, she consults to several companies so is out of the home one full day then a few hours a day on other days. Sometimes for work, sometimes to go to the gym, etc.
She has a full time live in nanny, and two part time nannies. Essentially they always have someone with them and the kids. She feels she needs two to properly care for her three.
I immediately thought of all the comments her lifestyle would elicit from this board.
The day she and I met she had just come from a 2 hour session at the gym, and was then heading off to go do some shopping.
BTW, she's a complete rock star in industry, having 'retired' a year ago after a 30 year career that took her right up to the top of corporate America so she's definetly *earned* her right to do whatever the heck she wants.
But anyway, she feels she is a super hands on mom. I was curious what others would think?

MM

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 2:59pm
i think alot of hs'ers tend/appear to be unapproachable, not necessarily because they hs but because they are not at alot of the places that parents tend to congregate and meet one another. since we moved to our new town almost every friend i have made has been thru the school and my children. i think there are alot of reasons people hs but i do think that some people do so to keep their kids away from what they feel are the negative influences in public school - i have had people tell me that so i know it is true.
Jennie
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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 2:59pm

When you say peers, do you mean age peers, grade peers, or intellectual peers?

Sometimes one of the reasons a parent might homeschool is to give their child a chance to socialize with intellectual peers, which wasn't happening in traditional school.




Edited 3/29/2006 4:02 pm ET by suzymomm
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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 3:00pm

I met my husband first semester my freshman year, so it was hardly a convent...

My sorority sisters introduced us, so the school and sorority were both pretty good decisions IMO!

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 3:04pm
but isnt the type of daycare one uses part of the equation. i know alot of daycares where education is inherent to the program. when i woh my oldest attended a montessori school, she went there because i loved the program, and would have if i had sah, but the fact was i needed her to be there because i worked. i dont know anyone who calls montessori a daycare. but maybe you do
Jennie
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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 3:06pm

Like I told Felicia, I met my husband there, so it was hardly an antisocial place. As we were mere blocks from a co-ed institution (previously a men's college that went co-ed in the early 80s), it wasn't like we were never around boys. We could take classes up the street if we really wanted, and occasionally there were men from that college in our classes. However, most of my classes were women-only. There were 650 students on campus when I was an undergrad and it was wonderful. I was class president, editor of the college paper, co-editor of the literary magazine...the opportunities were endless. It was empowering.

And, I don't think I ever showered before lunch on a class day. Why bother? Most days I went to class in my jammies, as did many of my peers.

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 3:10pm

Contrary to popular belief, the social sororities aren't all bad, either! All of the ones in the NPC (National Panhellenic Conference) have grade requirements for membership. Philanthropy is a very important component as well.

I currently oversee several collegiate chapters of my own sorority, so I know firsthand what they do. They hold their women to high standards, academically and socially/behavior-wise. The entire purpose is to make the women better women than they were when they joined.

The whole bow-head stereotype is SO not an accurate portrayal of most sorority women in this day and age.

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 3:12pm
what we were told is that as gifted as they are (although we were told that the profoundly gifted is some incredibly small number of people - i dont recall what it was) they still need to learn to connect on some level with their age group. because as advanced as a 5 year old might be they are still at some basic level a 5 year old. you seem to think the intellectual outweighs all the other aspects and we were led to believe that was a very damaging thing for the kids.
Jennie
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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 3:17pm
Montessori schools aren't day care, but if it filled your day care needs, great. My point is that you can't say day care and preschool are interchangable terms, b/c they aren't, as the definitions from Webster's showed. Day care does not = preschool, preschool does not = day care.
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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 3:26pm
but sometimes it is very difficult to tell where one starts and the other begins. a preschool can be acting in the role of providing daycare for children whose parents work - a daycare can have a wonderful educational program. it really is not as black and white as you want to make it. i would say that a preschool that only meets two days a week for 3 hours wouldnt be of much use to a wohm but a preschool that meets for 20 hour a week might be all the daycare a wohm would need. my son starts teh two days a week, 3 hours a day preschool when he turns 3 that would just not be enough at age 4 to prepare him for full day kindergarten.
Jennie
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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 3:35pm
i disagree..i'm speaking of the more elite alternative private schools (not necessarily the christian or catholic based) that require entrance exams just to get in......of course they don't have *gifted* programs, they don't need them as *all* the enrollees are not average, but soaring way above average.

 

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