Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3

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Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 9:59am

A 2 year old and 17 month old twins. First she accomplished *that* through two surrogates! Wonderful what modern medicine can do.
Anyway, she doesnt work full time, she consults to several companies so is out of the home one full day then a few hours a day on other days. Sometimes for work, sometimes to go to the gym, etc.
She has a full time live in nanny, and two part time nannies. Essentially they always have someone with them and the kids. She feels she needs two to properly care for her three.
I immediately thought of all the comments her lifestyle would elicit from this board.
The day she and I met she had just come from a 2 hour session at the gym, and was then heading off to go do some shopping.
BTW, she's a complete rock star in industry, having 'retired' a year ago after a 30 year career that took her right up to the top of corporate America so she's definetly *earned* her right to do whatever the heck she wants.
But anyway, she feels she is a super hands on mom. I was curious what others would think?

MM

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Thu, 03-30-2006 - 8:30am
i dont recall how old your oldest is but if she is starting high school i would guess about 14 - what does she do say, after school, with her friends...do they go to movies together, do they hang out, do they go for walks in the neighborhood, do they go to sporting events....the kids i know who do drugs do them not so much at school but away from school when they are with thier friends
Jennie
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Registered: 03-12-2005
Thu, 03-30-2006 - 8:32am
Yes, my dd does normal teen hang out types of things.
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Thu, 03-30-2006 - 8:38am

I can't speak for suzy here, but it isn't always about what's wrong with the school system but what's right bout the alternatives.

We put dd in a charter school for K and 1st. We had many people say "Why don't you like the public system?" or "What's wrong with sending her to public school?" Our answer was always "Nothing. It isn't about the public school being bad, but about this particular charter school being better."

For us, we had several options: public school, 2-3 charter schools, Catholic school or homeschool. We looked at ALL the options and the charter school we chose was simply the best option. So that's where we sent her. She would have been fine in any of the schools. There wasn't anything *wrong* with any of them. But the charter school was the *best* of the lot. For some people, that kind of analysis leads to choosing homeschooling.

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Thu, 03-30-2006 - 8:40am
no kids dont all respond the same but i still think that with practice you gain more skills. dont you think the more often your daughter plays volleyball the better she will get? i could see your point if it were a child having to deal with say a bully on a daily basis but i know our school and most schools now have a zero tolerance on bullying. for a child to occassionally run into someone who says or does something unkind or mean is a part of life that i feel they should be able to handle by the time they are school age - assuming you are talking peer groups here and not older children going after younger children.
Jennie
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Registered: 05-01-2003
Thu, 03-30-2006 - 8:55am
If you do a google on 'Rainbow Party Oral Sex' you will see. It is becoming quite common. And I've heard that boys wear colored bracelets on their arms (like the Lance armstrong kind) different colors that tells how far they've gone.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Thu, 03-30-2006 - 8:58am

<<...unless you have a child who is very, very different than most children they will do well in whatever education system they are put into.>>

You don't mean that, do you?

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Registered: 11-03-2005
Thu, 03-30-2006 - 8:59am
Or try urbandictionary.com
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Registered: 05-01-2003
Thu, 03-30-2006 - 9:01am
It's out there, though, and boy is it scary. Just recently I saw a kid w/a bracelet on - a real handsome kid (18) and now I'm starting to wonder if that is why he was wearing it...I'm guessing yes.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Thu, 03-30-2006 - 9:02am
Or you could have a totally crappy school system. I read in the paper this morning that eleven of Baltimore's schools are being taken over by the State of Maryland for lack of progress on NCLB. The Boston schools are notorious.
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Registered: 08-12-2003
Thu, 03-30-2006 - 9:11am
I won't translate, because I already got a smack this week from the iVillage Profanity Police for what I though was a cleverly disguised expletive, but thank you, PNJ, I will not let them, or my children, wear me down.

 

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