Militants - are they for real?
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Militants - are they for real?
| Tue, 04-14-2009 - 6:59pm |
Someone on another board posted this link.
http://blogs.babycenter.com/celebrities/2009/04/12/dr-laura-says-all-moms-should-stay-at-home/?scid=momstodd_20090414_A:2&pe=2U8vYLf
It's about Dr. Laura saying that all women should be SAHMs until the child is at least 3 years old.
Whether we're talking about working or staying at home, I can't quite wrap my head around what is going on inside the brains of people that apply the phrase "all women should".
Do you think militants are actually serious, or just trying to get a rise out of others?







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Well, mine did read before K, but only because she was bent on doing it, and because I figured it would help maintain her English if we went abroad. However, she did not "know" the alphabet in the sense that she had never learned to recite the alphabet, nor am I all that sure she knew the names of all the letters (she did know their sounds, though).
Generally I agree, however, I do not see any great value either in all these frantic mothers "teaching" and "stimulating" their babies and preschoolers half to death. Nor do I think this kind of premature teaching translates into improved cognitive skills. All it really reveals is that many people have a very limited perception of what it means to be "smart." I do think that parents can support their children's cognitive development or at least how effectively the kids use what brains they have, but I do not think that drilling ABCs has anything to do with that.
I agree also that as a measure K readiness tests is an iffy one. Would it not, btw, skew towards SAHMs and more educated mothers? It seems to me that many of the women I have met over the years who were convinced of the importance of the ABC drilling and stuff chose to SAH so that they could do more of it.
Edited 5/4/2009 3:45 am ET by rollmops2009
I already said, it may make a difference to the mother. I agree that it most likely makes no difference to the kid.
Since I know a lot of Danes, including a slew of young couples with young kids, it is my observation that all these anxieties and the guilt and the handwringing about putting the kids in daycare and going back to work are much more subdued there than in the US. Some of that may be cultural, but I think that some may also simply be that Danish families are given the room and the comfort to adjust back into working life in a fairly leisurely fashion. Whereas most American women return to work before they are ready, most Danish women are good and ready by the time they return. That is the difference.
See - I had happy parents who did what made them happy sometimes and what made us happy sometimes and who taught me that sometimes your happiness comes first, sometimes it comes second and sometimes it comes dead last to someone or something else more important at that time. no one family member has theiir happiness quotient filled first at all times-- and I'm raising Liza the same way. Sometimes it's all about her-- and sometimes it's all about me-- and sometimes it's not about either one of us.
And if momma ain't happy-- NO body's happy LOL. Do we struggle? you bet. Do we scrimp and save -- hell yah. But we laugh while we're doin' it and we have a hell of good time.
but then cindy our views on life are quite quite quite different...I don't view it as a grim march to some kind of ribbon at a finish line...I view it as a big grand adventure with fun lurking round every corner, and challenges, and heartaches, and times that will rip your soul apart and times that will make you want to shout from the tallest building how amazing life is... and I want Liza to have that-- more than anything else I want her to grab life and live it... live it live it.
Oh me too, but if someone else wants to do that I haven't got a problem with it.
but childhood IS about playing.
but how you exhibit happiness,stress,patience and so on is getting passed down to your kid.
is a housewife IYO a totally,childless woman or a woman whose children are grown and out of the house?
my mom was always a housewife.
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