Militants - are they for real?

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Militants - are they for real?
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Tue, 04-14-2009 - 6:59pm

Someone on another board posted this link.
http://blogs.babycenter.com/celebrities/2009/04/12/dr-laura-says-all-moms-should-stay-at-home/?scid=momstodd_20090414_A:2&pe=2U8vYLf
It's about Dr. Laura saying that all women should be SAHMs until the child is at least 3 years old.

Whether we're talking about working or staying at home, I can't quite wrap my head around what is going on inside the brains of people that apply the phrase "all women should".

Do you think militants are actually serious, or just trying to get a rise out of others?

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Registered: 03-23-2009
Tue, 05-05-2009 - 9:57pm

"Is it "okay" in your mind to WAH, you know, since I have an income and all?

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Registered: 03-23-2009
Tue, 05-05-2009 - 10:00pm

No, she didn't.

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Tue, 05-05-2009 - 10:52pm
Thanks. Consequences of a misspent youth (numerous injuries to the knee, starting with adolescent gymnastics) :) It wasn't Happy Fun Time, but I don't regret doing it at all.

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Tue, 05-05-2009 - 11:03pm

Not if her lower paid job had significantly better benefits (health, retirement, insurance, etc.) than the higher paid job. And that's a fairly common occurrence--many companies attempt to up the ante on their lower pay with better benefits.

My son's job *pays* great, but there are virtually no benefits. No health plan (he buys private insurance), no paid leave (he has to figure out how to get his minimum hours in within a given month and then he can take whatever else time he needs). His gf makes about 1/3 what he does, but has excellent health benefits, 401(k), paid leave. They aren't officially engaged, but have discussed marriage and him being covered by her health insurance will likely drive the timing of any wedding that might occur.

Although my ex's wife now out earns him, that's only been in the last 8 years or so. Prior to that, he significantly out earned her, but it's always been her job that covered them with health benefits and they've always done the bulk of their retirement investing in her company's retirement plans because her company offers significantly better benefits than the Federal Government. (Except for leave in their case).

It's not sufficient to compare income from the paycheck to expenses. Often it's worth it to take a "loss" in pay when the family as a whole will be far better off with the superior benefits and other perks of a lower paid job.

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Kitty

The horrifying consequences of underaged
baking cannot be overstated.--me, because there's nothing you can't learn from teh
interwebz

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Kitty

"If you can't annoy somebody with what you write, I think there's little point in writing."-- Kingsley Amis, British novelist, 1971 t .

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Tue, 05-05-2009 - 11:16pm
If it has great benefits, then yes it would make sense to stay. But if there are no benefits involved, or if DH's job offers the same benefits, then it would make more financial sense to SAH in the given situation.
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Registered: 02-04-2009
Tue, 05-05-2009 - 11:26pm
Well, yeah. I've never said that there's never a reason to SAH. I'm simply saying you can't make a valid cost benefit analysis of working a lower paid job without knowing what benefits come with it.

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The horrifying consequences of underaged
baking cannot be overstated.--me, because there's nothing you can't learn from teh
interwebz

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"If you can't annoy somebody with what you write, I think there's little point in writing."-- Kingsley Amis, British novelist, 1971 t .

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Wed, 05-06-2009 - 2:49am
Some kids are taught by mom for show-off purposes (or because mom has nothing better to do with herself). However, not all kids who read before entering school read for this reason.
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Wed, 05-06-2009 - 2:53am
Again, not necessarily. It may be worth taking the daycare hit for a few years for the advantage of keeping a given job and earning some seniority etc during those years.
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Wed, 05-06-2009 - 6:41am

<$15,500 in 2008, up to $16,500 in 2009>


I would definitely consider that a great deal.


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Wed, 05-06-2009 - 6:43am


That's a good point. My client company (not my direct employers) have extremely generous maternity policies and are generally a very good company to work for.



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