Militants - are they for real?

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Militants - are they for real?
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Tue, 04-14-2009 - 6:59pm

Someone on another board posted this link.
http://blogs.babycenter.com/celebrities/2009/04/12/dr-laura-says-all-moms-should-stay-at-home/?scid=momstodd_20090414_A:2&pe=2U8vYLf
It's about Dr. Laura saying that all women should be SAHMs until the child is at least 3 years old.

Whether we're talking about working or staying at home, I can't quite wrap my head around what is going on inside the brains of people that apply the phrase "all women should".

Do you think militants are actually serious, or just trying to get a rise out of others?

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Wed, 05-06-2009 - 12:42pm
Oh, ok, yes very possibly.
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Wed, 05-06-2009 - 12:43pm

Reasons why a "non-rich" family might see the value of a sahp to their family:

1) Special needs child
2) Lack of quality daycare
3) World view

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Wed, 05-06-2009 - 12:47pm

The poorer you are, the more theoretical the possibility of having a SAHP, so the easier it is to see no value in it.


What I'm sayign is that whooville seems to have grownup in such circumstances or is in such circumstances now that SAH was such a distant possiblity that she discounts its value entirely.

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Wed, 05-06-2009 - 12:49pm

Don't know if this is covered in "worldview," but they value a SAHP more than the extra goods that could be purchased with a second income, or a bigger home, car, etc.


I don't get how whooville doesn't get these possibilities.

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Wed, 05-06-2009 - 12:52pm
I don't get why some people do what they do, but that is their choice. You are not going to convince Whoville otherwise.
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Wed, 05-06-2009 - 1:11pm
First of all, I would not want to speculate how others grew up. But the possibility you propose does not strike me as the only one or even the most likely. I watched my SAH mother reduced to scraping out an existence of living paycheck to paycheck from temp jobs after my father walked out on her. It was perfectly nice to have her there when we came home from school as kids, but I do not think the limited value of that was worth what she had to go through as a result. We were not at all poor, btw, but lived a very comfortable middle class existence in a nice burb, big house, summer house, travel, large garden etc.
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Wed, 05-06-2009 - 1:19pm

This argument always bugs me:

"... but they value a SAHP more than the extra goods that could be purchased with a second income, or a bigger home, car, etc."

No, not necessarily and in most cases I know of, not at all. Most women I know who work do not work for "extra goods" (not saying some don't, just not the ones I know). They work for long-term security, a good retirement, college for their kids, a house in a good school district, things like that. They also usually like working, either directly in the sense of finding their jobs interesting and intellectually satisfying or indirectly in the sense of enjoying making a paycheck, contributing etc.




Edited 5/6/2009 1:21 pm ET by rollmops2009
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Wed, 05-06-2009 - 1:29pm
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Wed, 05-06-2009 - 1:54pm

"Don't know if this is covered in "worldview," but they value a SAHP more than the extra goods that could be purchased with a second income, or a bigger home, car, etc."

Not really. World view is the *reason* a family may value having a sahp more than the additional money a second income would bring.

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Wed, 05-06-2009 - 2:11pm

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I don't agree.....unless you are saying that someone who doesn't have a choice but to be a sahp might not see any value if there isn't a choice in the situation?

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