Militants - are they for real?
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Militants - are they for real?
| Tue, 04-14-2009 - 6:59pm |
Someone on another board posted this link.
http://blogs.babycenter.com/celebrities/2009/04/12/dr-laura-says-all-moms-should-stay-at-home/?scid=momstodd_20090414_A:2&pe=2U8vYLf
It's about Dr. Laura saying that all women should be SAHMs until the child is at least 3 years old.
Whether we're talking about working or staying at home, I can't quite wrap my head around what is going on inside the brains of people that apply the phrase "all women should".
Do you think militants are actually serious, or just trying to get a rise out of others?







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Maybe they just don't value a sahp because they don't see the purpose in having
PumpkinAngel
"makes me wonder how wives who can afford to SAH with no plans whatsoever of returning to work do it. doomed i tell ya. ;)"
Well the thing is eggd it is a risk, you don't really know if you are doomed or not--meaning you don't know for sure if you will be well off for your whole life, despite having no retirement of your own. Your dh makes a good salary & hopefully you are putting away money for the future. But it is still a risk.
My mil was a sahm & she didn't expect her dh to die of a heart attack suddently when he was only 45. I'm sure she felt very secure, she also had her parents to fall back on, as they owned a business and had several properties. But her mother died & her father remarried & the 2nd wife got everything.
But she is now in her 70's, & didn't make enough to qualify for her own social security. She is able to draw on her dh's as a widow. It can't be a great life, she lives in a high col area and I think she gets less than $1,000 a month.
Contrasting to my mother who did sah, but went back to work when I was in school, worked the rest of her life until she was 60 & now both my parents are retired, own their own home & are comfortable with money, have a recreational cabin, yadda yadda.
i think about this often because i'm the only sister who has moved around alot.
i agree,it's not always about "goods".
i'm sorry to read about your MIL.
but risk is subjective.
No, I just think sahms have to plan more. And I agree, many women could be a sahm and never go back to work & things can work out fine financially for them. They won't all end up poor & living on social security, like my mil.
My fil did have a good amount of life insurance luckily. But mil burned through that in a couple years. Then she went to work, but never worked anywhere with a pension, retirement etc. So she could have planned better. I'm just saying that some sahms are going to have unfortunate things happen to them (a dh pass away, or divorce or savings funds eaten away by a bad market or scammers like Bernie Madoff) And you can't say that will not happen to you, because that is in the future.
Yes, I as a wohm could have financial misfortune, but I will have my own retirement fund to rely on, in addition to any insurance and investment/savings with my dh.
"My fil did have a good amount of life insurance luckily. But mil burned through that in a couple years."
Sounds more like bad financial decisions on your mil than anything else.
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Not to mention a lifelong work history that will help you obtain and maintain employment.
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