Militants - are they for real?

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Militants - are they for real?
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Tue, 04-14-2009 - 6:59pm

Someone on another board posted this link.
http://blogs.babycenter.com/celebrities/2009/04/12/dr-laura-says-all-moms-should-stay-at-home/?scid=momstodd_20090414_A:2&pe=2U8vYLf
It's about Dr. Laura saying that all women should be SAHMs until the child is at least 3 years old.

Whether we're talking about working or staying at home, I can't quite wrap my head around what is going on inside the brains of people that apply the phrase "all women should".

Do you think militants are actually serious, or just trying to get a rise out of others?

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Registered: 11-22-2000
Mon, 04-20-2009 - 10:28am
OK.

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Mon, 04-20-2009 - 10:31am

i'm sorry you feel that way.


i can't wait to do the,lunch bunch thing at my DD's school today.

 

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Mon, 04-20-2009 - 10:46am

i saw an earlier link that read,a stay at home mother usually has a husband that supports the family financially.


usually?

 

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Mon, 04-20-2009 - 10:54am

yes.


i don't know that "luck" really goes into planning.

 

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Mon, 04-20-2009 - 10:59am

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No, I don't think it's an excuse either, although sometimes it factors into the decision. Some people would prefer to work even if it nets almost no income. Others would prefer to stay home and cut a few expenses instead.

So the cost of childcare can sometimes bring out the true preference of a person. I'm sure that I could find a part-time job and a home daycare that would take my (soon-to-be) two kids on a part-time basis, but I would be working just to pay for childcare, in which case I would personally prefer to stay with my kids. (Well, some days yes and some days no - there ARE some days when I would gladly work just to have someone else deal with Joe, LOL)

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Registered: 12-31-2008
Mon, 04-20-2009 - 11:05am

>>but i don't think the cost of childcare is an excuse for SAH.

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Registered: 12-31-2008
Mon, 04-20-2009 - 11:08am

>>most of the time if not always,a stay at home mother has a husband who financially supports the family IMO/E......i suppose there's the independtly wealthy but what portion of the SAH population <


There's always welfare, maybe? possibly? Or my sister was like the typical flower child. She just bounced from house to house for five or six years. Do ppl still do that?

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Mon, 04-20-2009 - 11:25am

I don't think anyone is saying that luck goes into planning. We are saying that BOTH planning AND luck factor into one's ability to SAH.

Let's say a happily married couple is expecting a second baby. She plans to stay home with the children until they are grown. They have a year's worth of savings (in case DH loses his job), ample life, health, & disability insurance, and both have competitive work skills and education. The husband makes a good salary and they are very well prepared. Just a couple of months before the baby is due, the husband is killed in a car accident. Life insurance is enough for the widow and children to live on for several years, but she WILL have to go to work before the children are born. Excellent planning, totally crap luck.

By contrast, another happily married couple is expecting a second baby. She wants to stay home with the children until they are grown. The have only two month's worth of savings, no assets, and minimal insurance. The husband makes a modest income, enough to cover the basics and maybe a few emergencies. HOWEVER, they are very fortunate: from the time they became parents to the time the children are grown, DH is never laid off, never becomes disabled, nobody in the family experiences a health crisis or other large unexpected expenses. They fortunately manage to muddle through on one income until the children are grown. Totally crap planning, excellent luck.

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Mon, 04-20-2009 - 12:07pm

??? having seen the other responses I think i know what you asked. The general population where I live is, mainly, wohms....there are some women that sah, BUT most of those are generally doing some sort of wah -- such as home dc (which accounts for why in-home dc is so plentiful in my area).

I know of ONE sahm on our street. Just one...and she's the one with the inground pool, 2-jet skis a lexus and a mercedes...Oh, and their house sits on TWO plots of land....

eileen




Edited 4/20/2009 12:42 pm ET by i_am_fine_now
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Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 04-20-2009 - 12:11pm


this generalization is what i always find debateable.

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