Militants - are they for real?

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Militants - are they for real?
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Tue, 04-14-2009 - 6:59pm

Someone on another board posted this link.
http://blogs.babycenter.com/celebrities/2009/04/12/dr-laura-says-all-moms-should-stay-at-home/?scid=momstodd_20090414_A:2&pe=2U8vYLf
It's about Dr. Laura saying that all women should be SAHMs until the child is at least 3 years old.

Whether we're talking about working or staying at home, I can't quite wrap my head around what is going on inside the brains of people that apply the phrase "all women should".

Do you think militants are actually serious, or just trying to get a rise out of others?

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Thu, 04-16-2009 - 1:17pm
Yes, I can imagine, lol. There are several posters here whose adult kids have completed schooling, have good jobs, families of their own etc. Then there are others, I am one of them, with big kids (mine is in 11th grade) who seem to be doing pretty OK by all reasonable indicators. I am always wondering what it is that is supposed to be missing from dd's life because of my having worked along the way.
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Thu, 04-16-2009 - 1:22pm

i wasn't necessarily turning this into SAH/WOH.


friend's parenting has covered more years than mine,yes (her oldest is a junior in h.s.).

 

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Thu, 04-16-2009 - 1:25pm

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Thu, 04-16-2009 - 1:26pm

What I find funny about these discussions is:

1. There are no perfect parents.

2. Luckily you do not have to be a perfect parent.

I think that my kids are great in spite of my parenting not because of it. I have had a lot of less than perfect moments over the years, but that is balanced out by the times when I did do well.

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Thu, 04-16-2009 - 1:27pm

"I think that my kids are great in spite of my parenting not because of it. I have had a lot of less than perfect moments over the years, but that is balanced out by the times when I did do well."

Well-said.

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Thu, 04-16-2009 - 1:27pm
No, That is not what I said at all. The SAH/WOH was an example. The main point was simply that if your kids are big or adult AND doing well by any reasonable standard, then it is only natural to conclude that the parenting must have been fairly OK. Also, if the kid is fine and doing well, it is a little difficult to take someone like Dr. Laura seriously when she insists that said child is doomed because the mother worked.
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Thu, 04-16-2009 - 1:28pm

Then why doesn't she

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 04-16-2009 - 1:30pm

Well of course, that is true for everyone....just as work status or lack of work status does not reflect on the ability to parent.


The fact that she has darn good kids reflects on her ability to parent.


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Thu, 04-16-2009 - 1:33pm
Yes, I know what you mean, although I would put a little differently. I think that really bad parenting can trip up a kid, sometimes quite badly. I see dd's successes not as a result of my parenting, but simply as proof that I managed not to trip her too badly.
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Thu, 04-16-2009 - 1:33pm

Even though I don't know her I'll go out on a limb and guess that her parenting advice is probably better than Dr. Laura's. Why? Because even if her advice is only so-so, Dr. Laura's is flat out terrible. She's set the bar so low on advice that a parent would have to be pretty bad to give worse advice than her.

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