Missing the Milestones?

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Missing the Milestones?
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Tue, 01-31-2012 - 12:24pm

I have a question for the working moms on the board:

Do you worry about missing your children’s important milestones because of work?

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Wed, 02-01-2012 - 4:17am

"I'd MUCH rather be the Mom who can be happy and proud and excited to see a skill for the first time, even if it's not the first time he achieved the skill, than one who sees such an occurrence as a time of disappointment and letdown."

Thanks! That is what I was trying to say.

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Tue, 01-31-2012 - 9:00pm

My 3rd grader had a timeline assignment to do for school about a month ago, he told me the teacher wanted "firsts" like his first word, his first step, etc. I think I have that stuff written down somewhere but I couldn't find it so we stuck to stuff we didn't have to look up like the day he was born, his very first day of school and the date of his first communion.

 


 


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Tue, 01-31-2012 - 8:59pm

Yes, exactly! Once they've got the skill, they've got it, and the first few (or 20) times they demonstrate it are always a joy. *

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Tue, 01-31-2012 - 8:56pm

Oh, my daughter was horrified at what came out of her mouth! She was very apologetic afterward. I felt awful that she felt so awful, which is probably why it was so memorable.

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Tue, 01-31-2012 - 7:45pm

Not really.

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Registered: 01-05-2000
Tue, 01-31-2012 - 7:31pm

Nope.

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Tue, 01-31-2012 - 7:03pm
I was never worried about missing the "firsts"; I would have seen those if I worked or not. it was more that I didn't want to miss the day-to-day stuff.
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Tue, 01-31-2012 - 5:28pm
These are the kinds of thinks very new parents dwell on. As others have said, how can you be sure you are seeing the "firsts"?
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Tue, 01-31-2012 - 5:15pm

This is probably going to sound horrible, but I only remember one milestone between both of my kids. My daughter managed to stand up and take off in a dead run across the house to get to a talking stuffed animal. This was significant because she hadn't even pulled herself up on furniture and didn't crawl well, and to this day, I credit all of her clumsiness on this single act. I don't remember my son's first steps, I don't remember either of their first words. I was a SAHM, so I was there for all of them, and while I'm sure it seemed like a big deal at the time, it doesn't seem important now at ages 12 and 13.

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Tue, 01-31-2012 - 4:43pm
Ash, I do remember a lot of firsts, at least firsts for me. Some of them are not necessarily things other people would consider either significant or milestones. LOL on "bitch" That would be memorable, agreed. I think the only reason I have escaped that one is that dd likes to maintain the illusion that she doesn't cuss.