Missing the Milestones?

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Missing the Milestones?
Tue, 01-31-2012 - 12:24pm

I have a question for the working moms on the board:

Do you worry about missing your children’s important milestones because of work?


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Registered: 05-27-1998
Tue, 01-31-2012 - 3:52pm

Even SAHMs miss the so-called milestones. If your baby walks, how can you be sure those really were her first steps? You can't. They were just the first ones you saw her take.

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Registered: 10-23-2001
Tue, 01-31-2012 - 2:31pm

I returned to work when my oldest was 6 mos old and I remember dwelling on this, Lol - that I could miss her first steps, she was a late crawler too... To this day, I don't know if that babysitter was the first one to see her walk but I remember announcing that my child walked for the first time for me and I asked her if she walked for her that day I saw it, Her reply was that she never captures "firsts" (which implied that was something only saved for parents)... That stuck



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Registered: 02-24-2009
Tue, 01-31-2012 - 12:44pm

Nope, never worried me and I have no idea what I may have "missed" along the way.

I always found it silly. If my kid starts walking I am thrilled that the kid is walking. Why would I care whether I was there for the first step? What possible difference could it ever make to anyone involved?

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Tue, 01-31-2012 - 12:38pm
When I first started posting here-- pre-kids-- I said something foolish about not wanting to miss the "firsts". A wise woman pointed out that even if you miss the absolute first time the baby rolls over, you have seen all of the practicing to get to that point and you'll probably see the second time the baby rolls over.

Also, SAH doesn't guarantee seeing all of the firsts anyway. How many times do you hear about a mom who puts the baby down to sleep in the crib and comes back an hour later to see that the baby has turned herself over? Or what about the baby who takes her first steps when mom is at the grocery store and dad is in charge?

There is not a single milestone I have missed because I work. To me, that would imply that I completely missed that my child can now roll over or walk or something. Have I missed the first time my child has done something? Probably. So has DH. And so did my mom with me, even though she was a SAHM.