Missing the Milestones?

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Missing the Milestones?
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Tue, 01-31-2012 - 12:24pm

I have a question for the working moms on the board:

Do you worry about missing your children’s important milestones because of work?

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Tue, 01-31-2012 - 12:38pm
When I first started posting here-- pre-kids-- I said something foolish about not wanting to miss the "firsts". A wise woman pointed out that even if you miss the absolute first time the baby rolls over, you have seen all of the practicing to get to that point and you'll probably see the second time the baby rolls over.

Also, SAH doesn't guarantee seeing all of the firsts anyway. How many times do you hear about a mom who puts the baby down to sleep in the crib and comes back an hour later to see that the baby has turned herself over? Or what about the baby who takes her first steps when mom is at the grocery store and dad is in charge?

There is not a single milestone I have missed because I work. To me, that would imply that I completely missed that my child can now roll over or walk or something. Have I missed the first time my child has done something? Probably. So has DH. And so did my mom with me, even though she was a SAHM.
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Tue, 01-31-2012 - 12:44pm

Nope, never worried me and I have no idea what I may have "missed" along the way.

I always found it silly. If my kid starts walking I am thrilled that the kid is walking. Why would I care whether I was there for the first step? What possible difference could it ever make to anyone involved?

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Registered: 10-23-2001
Tue, 01-31-2012 - 2:31pm

I returned to work when my oldest was 6 mos old and I remember dwelling on this, Lol - that I could miss her first steps, she was a late crawler too... To this day, I don't know if that babysitter was the first one to see her walk but I remember announcing that my child walked for the first time for me and I asked her if she walked for her that day I saw it, Her reply was that she never captures "firsts" (which implied that was something only saved for parents)... That stuck

 


 


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Registered: 05-27-1998
Tue, 01-31-2012 - 3:52pm

Even SAHMs miss the so-called milestones. If your baby walks, how can you be sure those really were her first steps? You can't. They were just the first ones you saw her take.

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Tue, 01-31-2012 - 4:43pm
Ash, I do remember a lot of firsts, at least firsts for me. Some of them are not necessarily things other people would consider either significant or milestones. LOL on "bitch" That would be memorable, agreed. I think the only reason I have escaped that one is that dd likes to maintain the illusion that she doesn't cuss.
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Registered: 05-31-2011
Tue, 01-31-2012 - 5:15pm

This is probably going to sound horrible, but I only remember one milestone between both of my kids. My daughter managed to stand up and take off in a dead run across the house to get to a talking stuffed animal. This was significant because she hadn't even pulled herself up on furniture and didn't crawl well, and to this day, I credit all of her clumsiness on this single act. I don't remember my son's first steps, I don't remember either of their first words. I was a SAHM, so I was there for all of them, and while I'm sure it seemed like a big deal at the time, it doesn't seem important now at ages 12 and 13.

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Registered: 03-29-1999
Tue, 01-31-2012 - 5:28pm
These are the kinds of thinks very new parents dwell on. As others have said, how can you be sure you are seeing the "firsts"?
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 01-31-2012 - 7:03pm
I was never worried about missing the "firsts"; I would have seen those if I worked or not. it was more that I didn't want to miss the day-to-day stuff.
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Registered: 01-05-2000
Tue, 01-31-2012 - 7:31pm

Nope.

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 02-04-2009
Tue, 01-31-2012 - 7:45pm

Not really.

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