Modern fairy tales

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Registered: 04-08-2003
Modern fairy tales
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Fri, 10-03-2008 - 4:41pm

Is it time we put aside Cinderalla et al. and find more modern fairy tales that reflect on the difficulties facing women in our time? That its probably not the best idea to wait around for Mr. Right to sweep you away and meet your every need forever?


I don't much care if a woman decides she wants to be

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Registered: 10-04-2007
Thu, 10-30-2008 - 2:15am

It's also perfectly possible to not wear your seat belt and arrive at your destination unhurt but that doesn't make it a smart thing to do.

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Registered: 10-04-2007
Thu, 10-30-2008 - 2:16am
Let's hope you're still saying that in 20 years.
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Registered: 10-18-2008
Thu, 10-30-2008 - 7:28am
I've read them to my grandchildren and children (fairy tales, I mean...and, my sons, grand daughters, and grandson are all slick enough to recognize them for what they are and not as life lessons)...as far as staying at home, it has always been more worth it to me, whether during my first marriage (my husband was an E4 in the Army when we married, and was an E7 when he was killed, not a lot of money there, but comfortable) and during my second marriage that I stay at home...I do have a bit of a safety net, as my husband is retired and can pick up my "slack" if I should go into the work field after graduating. I have been offered two jobs within the hospital system that I have been volunteering at and I may take one of them, but only because my husband will be at home in the event of a sickness or school activity that will require the presence of a parent...I have never considered my presence in the home as a sacrifice for anything...we still take vacations, we still live comfortably, we still are able to enjoy life...if we can survive quite nicely without me in the workforce, what lesson would be learned or goal achieved by my working outside of the home?...my mother was a career Army nurse and she earned a very nice living both in and out of the military...and, I respect her for it...but, she missed a lot of my activities and was away a lot...I would have preferred that we had a lot less and have her available to me, at least on the weekends...













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Registered: 07-23-2003
Thu, 10-30-2008 - 9:11am
Iteresting analogy but my little one LOVES Disney princess and she wants to be a vet and save all her money to buy a zoo :)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-30-2008 - 9:38am
But most women aren't married to men who make the money your DH does.

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Thu, 10-30-2008 - 11:26am

I see what you're saying, but we're not the Gates family. Heck, we're not even the myshka family....


Still, it's true that I wouldn't be doing what I'm doing if we really needed a good income from me.

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Thu, 10-30-2008 - 11:29am

This is very true, but even if you continue to work hard and make a good salary, you're not guaranteed anything either. Bad stuff happens even to those who follow your rules for doing everything right. It's just foolish for anyone to put their faith in the almighty dollar.


Both of us take risks in the way we prioritize our lives.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 10-30-2008 - 11:51am

Yes, starting your career late probably wasn't a smart thing for you to have done. You lost income during those years and of course, as you already pointed out, money you save early in life is worth more than money you save later. You may be right that it was unlikely you'd be able to make it up later, but someone you did. Maybe it's not as unusual as you think, or maybe you were just lucky that not wearing the seat belt worked for you.

Nonetheless, I'm glad that I worked and saved at a high-paying job when I was young. It's given me a lot of options now.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 10-30-2008 - 11:53am
Yes, and let's hope that taking the chance of starting your career late and cutting your salary significantly at age 50 works out for you in 20 years.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-30-2008 - 12:36pm
Isn't your DH a

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