The Mom "GUILT" - Anyone have it

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The Mom "GUILT" - Anyone have it
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Mon, 11-29-2010 - 11:19pm

I'm new here and have actually been on both side of the fence.

Kim King Mom of 3 boys.. and Finished! www.ceokcmoms.blogspot.com

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Fri, 12-03-2010 - 2:52pm

We often discuss want vs. need in our house.

You said that you realized the money provided the boys with what they wanted not what they "needed".

Sometimes I have "wanted" to work less - work out more - sleep later, be the one to do drop off and pick up instead of just one or the other. But I never really felt like I "needed" too or my kids "need" me too.

You hope to stay home with the 3rd. Do you feel that your kids "need" you to do that or is something that you just "want".

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Fri, 12-03-2010 - 4:36pm
My first (dd) slept 5 hours the night we brought her home from the hospital and was an excellent sleeper forever after that.

My second (ds) didn't sleep more than a 3ish hour stretch until he was 2.5 YEARS old. Sigh.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Sat, 12-04-2010 - 9:09am

LOL, my youngest was around 1 when he gave up naps.

 

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Sat, 12-04-2010 - 9:15am
not the OP but i think my want to SAH became an natural expectation or need for my kids, and for us that's been a good thing. SAH now is not the same as it was when my kids were small but i'm thankful i can be home when they get home from school, i WANT to be home adn they sort of expect to see me here, too.

 

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Sat, 12-04-2010 - 9:22am

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Sat, 12-04-2010 - 9:34am
that's awful close, my girls have an august and june bd, they're 23 mos apart. DS was born when they were about 4 and 6! =)

 

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Sat, 12-04-2010 - 10:18am

I am no sure what you mean by natural expectation or need for my kids.

You could be home when the kids get home from school and work. Are you are there every day when the get home? Not sure your kids ages - you never would run and errand, volunteer or anything else at that time of day.

They don't have after school activities?

My SAH friends are not always home when the kids get home from school she may be

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Sat, 12-04-2010 - 10:38am

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Sat, 12-04-2010 - 10:56am
I am not *always* home, b/c sometimes things come up...but I don't schedule errands and other things that would take me away from home at the time my kids get home from school. In other words, I TRY to be home when my kids get home. *To me* that's one of the perks of being a sahm, having the flexibility to do things at other times during the day, so that I can be home when my kids get home.
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Sat, 12-04-2010 - 11:06am

That was something that was a priority for us when we moved. So we deliberately organized ourselves to make that possible. Obviously it is not always easy to do, but we were both able to work, and have one of us home (usually me) when school let out.

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