mommy guilt

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mommy guilt
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Tue, 02-24-2009 - 3:57pm
hello!! so my dd made me feel bad today, but i cant change to do what she wants me to do...she faked a stomachache today because she wanted "to spend time with me." she claims she hardly gets to see me. i do work a lot of nights m-f and lately i

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Registered: 01-12-2004
In reply to: jhbear419
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 1:32pm

Do you think that not having a choice as to whether you work or not has an influence on feeling guilty or not feeling guilty?


Robin

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Registered: 01-07-2004
In reply to: jhbear419
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 1:39pm
Do you think that not having a choice as to whether you work or not has an influence on feeling guilty or not feeling guilty?

for me it doesnt. i know i cant quit my job-i have no other choice-and i get the twinges of guilt from time to time...especially when my oldest makes comments like she did the other day. i dont feel guilty the whole time im at work-but now and then i get those twinges. maybe if i didnt have to work, but i chose to-maybe i would feel even more guilty. i might feel like i was choosing to leave my child(ren) and go to work when i didnt have to. but when you dont have that choice-when you have to work-it may ease some of the guilt.
joanne
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Registered: 01-12-2004
In reply to: jhbear419
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 1:52pm

I was thinking about the things in my life that have brought on feelings of guilt and, IME, they have been the things that I truly had a choice about.

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In reply to: jhbear419
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 2:46pm

I was thinking about the things in my life that have brought on feelings of guilt and, IME, they have been the things that I truly had a choice about


 

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Registered: 01-15-2006
In reply to: jhbear419
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 3:04pm

you raise an interesting point.


i might feel "less" guilty if i knew i had to woh.

 

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Registered: 11-08-2006
In reply to: jhbear419
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 3:13pm

nope. You're not alone. I've never wasted a moment on guilt -- certainly not for working as there's nothing to feel guilty about. Kids tried to pull that "why don't you stay home" stuff one time many years ago. When I explained that they then wouldn't get to do all of the fun things that they enjoy -- sports, swimming lessons, summer camp -- they were just content with keeping things the way they were/are.

and frankly, it will get easier as they get older because they will be in school much of the day.

eileen

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Registered: 01-20-2009
In reply to: jhbear419
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 4:02pm
Not for me. I love having the choice.
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Registered: 01-20-2009
In reply to: jhbear419
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 4:03pm
I bet your DH feels zero guilt when he WOH. Why should I feel any guilt then either?
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In reply to: jhbear419
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 5:29pm

I agree....


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 11-13-2008
In reply to: jhbear419
Fri, 02-27-2009 - 10:30am

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I'll have to remember that one for when the baby gets old enough to talk!

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