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Thu, 07-01-2010 - 10:33pm

SAH and WOH


Which has proven to be more difficult?


I was reading a post below and someone stated that staying home was more difficult.

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Fri, 07-02-2010 - 1:43pm
Could you elaborate?
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Registered: 07-17-2007
Fri, 07-02-2010 - 1:44pm
I do. I also know several wohps who work less that some sahpsI know who volunteer.
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Registered: 08-22-2009
Fri, 07-02-2010 - 2:00pm

You did not state in your OP that you were only referring to full time WOHH plus the hours worked has nothing to do with my post.

Having time commitments to others outside my family having to deal with an ill child that conflicted with those commitments are things that I experienced both as a SAHM and a WOHM.

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Fri, 07-02-2010 - 2:02pm

How so?


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Fri, 07-02-2010 - 4:32pm
Wohm's can understand and know more about Sah than a Sahm would know about Woh.



Given the question is directed at moms have have been both SAH and WOH themselves, this answer is cracking me up! I am a SAHM now, but I guess my being a WOHM from age 29 to age 36 doesn't count?!?!?!!

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Fri, 07-02-2010 - 5:10pm
No, it doesn't, because, uhm, it just doesn't! ;)

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Fri, 07-02-2010 - 5:16pm
Perhaps, but I don't know a single, not even one, SAHM who was never a WOHM, even if only for a short while. Maybe it's different in other areas, but most of my friends and many of my acquaintances didn't have kids until they hit 30 or so, after establishing a career. When their first children were born, they continued to work, and only after it seem financially feasible (or the logistics got to be a problem--WOHM is hard!), did they quit to SAH. Yep, I'm sure I know some exceptions, but I can't think of even one right now. It might be because Boston is a high COL area, so people need two incomes for a lot longer (and sometimes forever.)
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Fri, 07-02-2010 - 5:45pm

I have the same experience ("Maybe it's different in other areas, but most of my friends and many of my acquaintances didn't have kids until they hit 30 or so, after establishing a career. When their first children were born, they continued to work, and only after it seem financially feasible (or the logistics got to be a problem--WOHM is hard!), did they quit to SAH.")

Except that the only people I know who are sahps are because the logistics got to be too hard - in that one or both had an inflexible job and/or one or more of the children have special needs of some sort. I don't know any sahps who quit to sahm soley because of the finances - they would have kept on working if other things hadn't interfered despite being able to afford to live on one income. Most didn't quit until well after baby #2 because of flexibility and family issues.

Where I am, dual woh is the norm and sah happens if needed.

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Fri, 07-02-2010 - 6:40pm
I disagree. BEING a SAHM does not mean one has never been a WOHM. Any more than being a WOHM means one has never been a SAHM.

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Sat, 07-03-2010 - 2:22pm

every SAHM you know has also been a working MOM at one time or another?

 

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