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Thu, 07-01-2010 - 10:33pm

SAH and WOH


Which has proven to be more difficult?


I was reading a post below and someone stated that staying home was more difficult.

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Registered: 06-24-2008
Mon, 07-05-2010 - 12:45pm

Well said.

I do get glimpses of my former life even as a SAH. That scenario you describe happens to us when we have to be somewhere early by a specific time. I remember when I used to do it and I'd think, how in the world do I do this every day? When we have one day now that we have to do it, I think how in the world would I do this every day?

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Mon, 07-05-2010 - 1:08pm

Because when you do it every day, it become routine. You don't have to think about as much. Or you learn to pare it down. For example, lot of the kids at Dylan's dc arrived there in their pjs and ate breakfast there. Since I didn't have to be at work until 10, Dylan got dressed and ate breakfast at home. I didn't have to take a diaper bag/extra clothes every day. They stayed at the dc. When he got low, the provider would tell me and I'd bring more. Or I'd notice and bring in replacements the next day. The provider provided bottles/formula, food (including baby food), and wipes. I only had to provide diapers and a change of clothes.

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Mon, 07-05-2010 - 1:26pm

LOL, yeah, no matter what the circumstance, from the moment that first baby is born, we're each left wondering "How on in the world do I do this?"

Whether it's "How do I keep this baby alive when I feel about to die from lack of sleep?" or "How in the world am I going to get from here to there and back again in time to make dinner every night?" or "How in the world am I going to find an activity for them to do every 30 minutes of every day of every week of every year while simultaneously doing enough housework and errands to not be asked what is it that I do all day?"

Personally, I think that last one is why even SAHMs are often fine with sending the kids off to school, LOL.












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Registered: 06-24-2008
Mon, 07-05-2010 - 1:29pm
I think you missed that I asked myself the same question when I was a WOHM.

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Registered: 06-24-2008
Mon, 07-05-2010 - 1:32pm
My current one is "How am I going to keep from losing my mind today?" It applied when I was working too, though somehow I feel more at risk as a SAHM.

Say not, 'I have found the truth,' but rather, 'I have found a truth.' -Kahlil Gibran



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Registered: 08-27-2007
Mon, 07-05-2010 - 2:37pm

Staying home is much more physically difficult. My work was much more emotionally difficult.


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Registered: 01-15-2006
Mon, 07-05-2010 - 4:25pm

of course the logistics change with children, that's just it.

 

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Mon, 07-05-2010 - 4:32pm
i remember thinking days would be "easier" when kids started school, my sister with older children used to laugh at that, days aren't easier just different..summer breaks take me back to those years when i had them home ALL THE TIME, LOL.

 

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Mon, 07-05-2010 - 4:49pm

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If by familiar you mean that she can try to imagine it, yes. But to say that being home part of each day means that she fully understands what it's like to stay home full time, no.

It's like waitressing: You can read the job description of a waitress, but unless you've actually been a waitress you can't FULLY understand what it's like to be a waitress.
Likewise, unless a person has actually BEEN a SAHM or a WOHM, that person cannot fully comprehend what it's like to be a SAHM or a WOHM.












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Registered: 04-22-2005
Mon, 07-05-2010 - 4:54pm
In your experience, what were some things that were more difficult about sending the kids to school as opposed to homeschooling them? (I'm not being snarky about the homeschooling thing - I'm trying to weigh the pros and cons. If I decide to SAH while they are school age it will be because I am homeschooling them. Otherwise I plan to work while they are in school.)










Edited 7/5/2010 4:58 pm ET by finally.me




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