For moms who have been both...

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For moms who have been both...
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Thu, 07-01-2010 - 10:33pm

SAH and WOH


Which has proven to be more difficult?


I was reading a post below and someone stated that staying home was more difficult.

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 07-06-2010 - 11:28am

my sister is a WOHM with 4 kids, her husband has a very good job which could afford her SAH if she wanted that but she doesn't.

 

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 07-06-2010 - 11:31am

Yes, it changes.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 07-06-2010 - 11:34am

That's a interesting point...the job doesn't change.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 07-06-2010 - 11:49am

I don't know....I think it just gets done, but then again my schedule is more driven by my kids schedule than my own.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 07-06-2010 - 11:55am

What about part time?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 07-06-2010 - 11:58am

I don't think those are limited to a sahp though either, I think many wohps also struggle with the exact same thing, except the always home part.....but then again, I don't know many sahps who were always home.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 07-06-2010 - 11:58am

Can you give an example?


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 07-06-2010 - 12:04pm

That's a lot of walking....I think each individual wohm and sahp experience is different from each person and even the ages of children.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 07-06-2010 - 12:08pm

It's not just you, I feel the same way.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Tue, 07-06-2010 - 12:20pm

IME, working three days a week before I quit entirely - was much closer to the woh experience than it was to the sah experience.

Adjusting to sah was longer and harder ( my kids were 4 and 2 at the time) - for me - than adjusting to motherhood and to wohp. For me, wohp was much more natural and doable than sah. I had a rocky start to motherhood, too.

When I started to sah, I had to start from scratch. Since my work friends were scattered all over the metro area, I have only kept up with a few of them and we don't have that close everyday experience anymore. I had to find new friends and make new connections and find new activities for my children. The whole cadence of our days changed too. That took time to acclimate.

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