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Thu, 07-01-2010 - 10:33pm

SAH and WOH


Which has proven to be more difficult?


I was reading a post below and someone stated that staying home was more difficult.

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Sat, 07-17-2010 - 11:55am
I think you are making a connection between worrying about a risk and the existance of a risk that to me are two separate issues. I don't spend much time worrying about what I gave up financially to SAH. I'm pleased I was in a position to give it up. I feel I will always land on my feet no matter what happens to me, I always have. It could be luck, but I think it's more attitude. In any case. I don't worry, I feel optimistic what my future holds, it doesn't negate that I took a risk when I gave up a steady income for no income. I took that risk the same way a skydiver might confidently and pleasurably take a risk to jump out an airplane, excited and happy to take that risk because of the rewards that also come with it.

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Registered: 04-16-2010
Sat, 07-17-2010 - 12:05pm
Yep, just b/c the benefit outweighs the risk doesn't mean there is no risk.
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Sat, 07-17-2010 - 12:18pm

-I think you are making a connection between worrying about a risk and the existance of a risk that to me are two separate issues. I don't spend much time worrying about what I gave up financially to SAH. I'm pleased I was in a position to give it up. I feel I will always land on my feet no matter what happens to me, I always have. It could be luck, but I think it's more attitude. In any case. I don't worry, I feel optimistic what my future holds, it doesn't negate that I took a risk when I gave up a steady income for no income. I took that risk the same way a skydiver might confidently and pleasurably take a risk to jump out an airplane, excited and happy to take that risk because of the rewards that also come with it.-


Yes. I am.


And while I know I'm lucky in this respect. The fact we didn't and still don't give up anything with my being at home I don't feel the risk, think about the risk. I'm very thankful. I realize this isn't universal.


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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 07-17-2010 - 8:52pm

"It just isn't something I given myself any thought about it or worry about as a risk of 'what if.'"

The point i was making wasn't how someone feels about it subjectively. I understand that some people feel like they're not taking a risk. But objectively, unless you're independently wealthy, you're taking some risk by sah. How much risk depends on individual circumstances--family finances, marriage security, education/experience, career goals, etc.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 07-17-2010 - 8:57pm
Ditto. I was never "worried" about choosing to sah, but I was realistic about the risks and was comfortable with them.
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Registered: 07-09-2010
Sat, 07-17-2010 - 9:03pm
True. I've just never given 1 second of thought to any risk with sah.

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Registered: 03-29-1999
Sun, 07-18-2010 - 9:06am

"The fact we didn't and still don't give up anything with my being at home "


But you have given up things.

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Registered: 07-09-2010
Sun, 07-18-2010 - 9:31am

-But you have given up things.

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Registered: 08-27-2007
Sun, 07-18-2010 - 10:19am

Probably. Its pretty common term in her books. LOL.


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