Mom's who made the transition.....

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Mom's who made the transition.....
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Mon, 06-25-2007 - 5:06pm

from full time, full on career to cutting back a bit (say 60+ hours a week to 25?)....how did you do it?

I love what I do. I'm also definetly a bit of a work a holic. I don't think I need a 12 step program, but, I certainly am having a hard time even cutting back a tinsy bit while I'm pregnant, for example, so cutting way back will be hard (I've reluctantly passed on a trip to Israel next week, and a trip to NY last week which wasnt essential but would have been good for bus overall).

I'm planning on going to part time after maternity leave.

My DH doesnt work he's a SAHD so that's part of the angst. But we are financially independant so its mainly missplaced concern on my part.

So....any tips on how to transition to a slower pace when it comes to work? I've got almost 4 year old twins, so its not from want for something else to do when I'm not working! And I LOVE being with my kids --- I just also really love my work. Its the balance part I'm struggling with.

Thanks.

MM

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Mon, 06-25-2007 - 5:23pm

Not sure if my experience is applicable. I was a workaholic before kids, but not so much after kids. When we adopted #3, my DH stayed home for a year. When it was time for him to go back to work, I was in a position to transition to a WAH job and go parttime (24hrs). I went from technical to management, so that was a bit of a shock. After a bit of trial and error, I found it was best for me to work M-W-F, and advertise my availability on those days only - I refused to be included on calls on Tu-Th, and limited work to checking email in early am and late pm on those days, I did not carry my work cell on those days, too.

Once I established ground rules for myself and my coworkers and religiously stuck to them, parttime worked out very well for my family. Good luck.

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Mon, 06-25-2007 - 6:10pm
MMmmm. That's good advice.
I will definetly have to find a way to limit the days and stick to it.
That could work if I can stick to it!!!
Thanks.
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Tue, 06-26-2007 - 5:20pm

Honestly? Most people who cut back do it for one of two reasons: they want to or they have to. Either they really want to work fewer hours or they have childcare limitations or other obligations that prevent them from working longer hours.

If you really love working long hours and have no need to work less, why are you doing it? If there is some reason you feel that you should be working less (like you feel in your heart that your kids need more time with you, or you feel that you will regret having worked long hours when they are grown and gone) then keep that in mind when you are tempted to work more. And, if you want to keep yourself honest in that respect just schedule activities so you can't work: have a set day to volunteer in the classroom, coach soccer, sign up for mommy-and-me classes, etc.

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Tue, 06-26-2007 - 10:14pm

If you really love working long hours and have no need to work less, why are you doing it? "

Because I feel like I don't have enough time with my family and we really don't need the money at all.

"If there is some reason you feel that you should be working less (like you feel in your heart that your kids need more time with you, or you feel that you will regret having worked long hours when they are grown and gone) then keep that in mind when you are tempted to work more."

Yep.

And, if you want to keep yourself honest in that respect just schedule activities so you can't work: have a set day to volunteer in the classroom, coach soccer, sign up for mommy-and-me classes, etc."

Good ideas. thanks!

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Wed, 06-27-2007 - 9:38am

When I cut back from fulltime to part time, it was fairly easy. I changed jobs and companies. I did the same thing, just with fewer clients. It is also important to say no to extra tings (that you really want to say yes to). If you want a visual reminder, you can put a cute picture of your kids in a frame next to your phone- and put a note at the bottom (like- "It's okay to say no to the next project Mom.")

The hardest transition was from pt to at home fulltime.

Rather than say I am only going to work x hours. Look at your workload last year and count up the clients. Multiply by .4. That is how many clients you can take next year.

Scheduling of events works with DH too.