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|Fri, 05-07-2010 - 12:46pm|
Hey there. I am on maternity leave from child #2 (DS) and i'll be returning to work on June 1. So heres my deal:
My DH and i worked opposite shifts when DD was born in 2008. I worked 6:30-2:30 (that was the best shift ever btw) and he worked 2:30-11p. We work at the same place so he'd wait in the car for me to come out then i'd drive the kids home and he'd go into work. That was really rough on our marriage because the this schedule required that he worked the days i had off and his two days off were when i was working. So we only ever had half days together, however there were four half days...
When DD was 7 mo old i got promoted so i was not able to work an alternative shift, i had to work M-f 8a-430p. So we switch to working the same shift and put DD in daycare. She did GREAT in day care. DH wasnt too great about making a schedule during the day so she had no regular naps etc and was always cranky when i got her. but once she startd day care we were having the same days off and evenings together. we had family dinners it was AWESOME.
Now that DS is born, we cannot afford to send them both to day care. The cost of daycare for the two of them will be 50% of DH's take home pay. So we are doing opposite shifts again. Problem is i've been promoted again and still have to do the 8-430 schedule so there will always be a 2 hour over lap even if dh works nights and no day care will watch them for only 2 hours, plus we dont want a little tiny baby in day care. So dh is working 6 days a week. 6 hours a day m-f and 10 hours on su. SO we will have ONE full day off together and one 1/4 of a day.
Now the question: have any of you ever had to do something like this? how do you keep your marriage together? how do you schedule family time with only one day off together and still have time for dates and just alone time with your spouse? Is this insane? should we just cancel cable and life insurance and put them in day care? sell one of our cars? Or are we doing right by our kids to keep them with their mommy and daddy all day?