Moving Up the Corporate Ladder?

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Moving Up the Corporate Ladder?
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Mon, 10-17-2011 - 1:06pm

Promotions - do you think that your working status plays a role?

Working moms - do you think that your status as a mom limits you on how far you can be promoted in your field?

SAHMs - do you think that your spouse is more promotable because your status gives him more flexibility at work?

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Wed, 10-19-2011 - 11:58am

this sounds like an even playing field there then, that it doesn't matter if your husband moves for a project, his role is just the same as someone who is willing to move.

 

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Wed, 10-19-2011 - 11:58am

I have a friend who is willing to move at the drop of a hat for her husbands job. Takes the bar exam in every state she needs to and passes. I hate her a little bit for being able to do that.

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Wed, 10-19-2011 - 12:01pm
He was there long enough for FMLA - just not long enough to know all the ins and outs of the culture. I am a lifer.
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Wed, 10-19-2011 - 12:03pm

True - I even know the manager. He is not evil just uninformed and when he had kids and got passed over for a promotion or two (not because of the kids but because of politics) he

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Wed, 10-19-2011 - 12:42pm

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Wed, 10-19-2011 - 1:13pm
Shrug. My DH's ability to do things during the day is limited by his commute and the fact that he works ft. whereas I was a sahm for 6 years and have worked pt for 8 years at a job with virtually no commute. I would not have put my kids in dc (or extended the hours my dd2 was in dc), just so DH could pick them up half the time. Nor would I have insisted my DH stay home half the time when the kids were sick when I was a sahm (even now, as a pt wohm, it is often easier for me to sah with sick kids than DH, although he has certainly done it). I also see no benefit to my dh using time off from work to take kids to routine dr visits, when I can do it on my day off. We prefer to maximize our family time. As I said, I didn't sah (nor do I woh pt) to help my DH in his career, but it "has" been a help to him. We would not have predicted that, since we didn't know how dramatically his career was going to change when we had kids.
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Wed, 10-19-2011 - 1:23pm
egd3blessed wrote:
everyone has choices, we all know that. but i'm curious how familiar you are with the SAH position to know that there are no advantages in having a SAHM and a husband being more promotable?

I would think the 5 or 10 years Ah huh sure (and other long term posters) has debated and discussed sah/woh would make her very familiar with the SAH position and all aspects of it.

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Wed, 10-19-2011 - 2:11pm

No, as I said he has moved

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Wed, 10-19-2011 - 2:11pm
mamageek wrote:

I have a friend who is willing to move at the drop of a hat for her husbands job. Takes the bar exam in every state she needs to and passes. I hate her a little bit for being able to do that.

:smileywink:

I can see why!

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Wed, 10-19-2011 - 2:17pm
mom34101 wrote:
Shrug. My DH's ability to do things during the day is limited by his commute and the fact that he works ft. whereas I was a sahm for 6 years and have worked pt for 8 years at a job with virtually no commute. I would not have put my kids in dc (or extended the hours my dd2 was in dc), just so DH could pick them up half the time. Nor would I have insisted my DH stay home half the time when the kids were sick when I was a sahm (even now, as a pt wohm, it is often easier for me to sah with sick kids than DH, although he has certainly done it). I also see no benefit to my dh using time off from work to take kids to routine dr visits, when I can do it on my day off. We prefer to maximize our family time. As I said, I didn't sah (nor do I woh pt) to help my DH in his career, but it "has" been a help to him. We would not have predicted that, since we didn't know how dramatically his career was going to change when we had kids.

Well, I'm not suggesting or insisting you do anything in regards to your dh, let alone "half the time", so I'm not sure why you are directing those comments to me.

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