Moving Up the Corporate Ladder?

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Moving Up the Corporate Ladder?
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Mon, 10-17-2011 - 1:06pm

Promotions - do you think that your working status plays a role?

Working moms - do you think that your status as a mom limits you on how far you can be promoted in your field?

SAHMs - do you think that your spouse is more promotable because your status gives him more flexibility at work?

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Wed, 10-19-2011 - 2:33pm

I agree with this.

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Wed, 10-19-2011 - 2:43pm
Then I don't understand why you think a parent would need to worry about those things if the other parent were doing them. There are lots of kid-related things I don't have to worry about because my DH does them. For example, I don't have to worry about picking my kids up from soccer practice because my DH does it. I didn't have to worry about driving my dd1 to the bus stop at 6:30 a.m. every day she was in middle school because DH did that. I don't have to worry about whether we will run out of inhalers for dd1 because my DH takes care of that. And so on. Why does a parent need to worry about something the other parent is taking care of?
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Wed, 10-19-2011 - 3:16pm
mom34101 wrote:
Then I don't understand why you think a parent would need to worry about those things if the other parent were doing them. There are lots of kid-related things I don't have to worry about because my DH does them. For example, I don't have to worry about picking my kids up from soccer practice because my DH does it. I didn't have to worry about driving my dd1 to the bus stop at 6:30 a.m. every day she was in middle school because DH did that. I don't have to worry about whether we will run out of inhalers for dd1 because my DH takes care of that. And so on. Why does a parent need to worry about something the other parent is taking care of?

I didn't say that a parent needs to do anything.

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Wed, 10-19-2011 - 3:34pm
ah_huh_sure wrote:
mom34101 wrote:
Then I don't understand why you think a parent would need to worry about those things if the other parent were doing them. There are lots of kid-related things I don't have to worry about because my DH does them. For example, I don't have to worry about picking my kids up from soccer practice because my DH does it. I didn't have to worry about driving my dd1 to the bus stop at 6:30 a.m. every day she was in middle school because DH did that. I don't have to worry about whether we will run out of inhalers for dd1 because my DH takes care of that. And so on. Why does a parent need to worry about something the other parent is taking care of?

I didn't say that a parent needs to do anything.

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Wed, 10-19-2011 - 4:14pm

i do most of the getting kids places, dr. appointments, etc because i have the time to do it.

 

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Wed, 10-19-2011 - 5:32pm
If it's not a good thing, that means it's a bad thing not to have to be worried. I can't understand why someone would think it was bad not to have to worry about who's going to stay home with a sick kid, or do the dc pickup, or take the kid to a routine dr visit, if their spouse were already handling it. You do sound like quite the worrier. And BTW, I didn't say anything about staying up with a sick kid; I said staying home with a sick kid.
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Wed, 10-19-2011 - 5:38pm
Right, that's exactly what I said. The other parent didn't have to worry about picking the child up at dc at a certain time, staying home when the child was sick, or taking time off for routine visits. That has nothing to do with not worrying about a child who is sick. Of course the parent who didn't stay home would still be worried about the sick child.
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Wed, 10-19-2011 - 5:43pm
Yep, that's the point. The mechanics of who is going to do these things are not a worry for the working parent. I am not sure why not having to worry about these things is bad, unless one believes that these things have to be shared 50-50 between parents, which I don't. We've always made decisions about these things based on what makes sense for our family considering our different work situations, commutes, etc. It all seems to even out in the end.
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Wed, 10-19-2011 - 6:43pm
I agree with you and tryingtoquit. As someone who has been the WOHP, while DH SAH it is much easier to leave to go to work when your kid's sick if it's your spouse who is home with them than if someone else is there with them. I even worry more if it's my mom who I trust completely with my kids. It's also easier to stay at work a few minutes later if I know the kids are at home with DH, rather than still at daycare/after care.
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Registered: 06-04-2003
Wed, 10-19-2011 - 7:20pm

I am not directing this at you specifically but in general.

I wonder why husbands don't want to do morning routine, or dr appointments, or soccer practice or sick kids days or the miriad of things the SAHM say they free their husband from.

I don't really get "freeing" somebody from such great bonding and special times with a kid.

I can see I free my husband from scrubbing the toilet but field trips and holidays. I guess

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