My little taste

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My little taste
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Fri, 07-05-2013 - 11:53am

Today I am getting a little taste of what it would be like if I were to SAH rather than WOH.   I am off work and DH is working.

I am getting  the errands done that I usually do Friday evening/weekends. Really enjoyed doing my grocery shopping when the stores were fairly empty.  In a bit I am going out for lunch with DD3.

I do realize that it is just a small taste.  If I were home full time I would not be doing laundry, grocery shopping or going out for lunch every day and there are some things that I would be doing that I am not today. 

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Wed, 07-10-2013 - 9:20am
Once again, Spring, you fail to understand that different people have different needs and priorities. I have a friend who has a severely disabled daughter who needs round the clock care, and yet she continues to teach part time even though it practically costs her money to keep teaching. Her reason is that her cheaply little adjunct job gives her a sense of structure, something she's good at and looks forward to, something that gives her positive feedback and allows her to feel successful at the end of the day. You have no business and no right to tell Empty she's "doing if wrong" when she us obviously secure and content. Most of us wouldn't want your life, either, yet you and Mr Spring seem to be quite happy in the life you've made for yourselves. Why can't you extend a little grace to Empty here?
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 07-10-2013 - 9:39am

springfever2013 wrote:
<p><span style="text-align:left">I would fall under the catagory of someone who works but does not need to.  Since my income is a very small part of our household income and we live way below our means me not working would have no effect on our (financial) day to day lives.  But I do get things from my job,  I like it (most days),   I am good at it. There would be nothing gained by not working. </span></p><p><span style="text-align:left">I find that incredibly sad that there would be nothing gained by not working.</span></p>

There are a great number of people who find real joy in working (in a variety of places), I think the goal in working is to work at something you love and to find value and gain in working.  

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 07-10-2013 - 9:47am

springfever2013 wrote:
<div style="border-bottom-color:#cccccc; border-bottom-width:1px; border-bottom-style:solid; text-align:left"><div><div><div><p><span>ft"&gt;I find that incredibly sad that there would be nothing gained by not working.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
</span></p><p><span>Why is it sad?</span></p><p>There is soooooo much more to life than working a crappy factory job. Why would you want to work when you dont have to and not enjoy everything that life has to offer? </p><div style="font-size:16px"><span style="font-family:'comic sans ms', sans-serif; font-size:medium"><br /></span></div></div></div></div></div>[/quote]

What an incredibly rude statement.  Why are you of a mind that work gets in the way of enjoying everything life has to offer?  I can't imagine thinking that way, why wouldn't you find a job that you can enjoy working and life?  Why must you think in absolutes only?

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 07-10-2013 - 9:48am

springfever2013 wrote:
<blockquote><div style="font-weight:bold"><em>springfever2013</em> wrote:</div><span>&lt;div style="border-bottom-color:#cccccc; border-bottom-width:1px; border-bottom-style:solid; text-align:left"&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;span&gt;ft"&amp;gt;I find that incredibly sad that there would be nothing gained by not working.&amp;lt;/span&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;</span></blockquote><div>&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;span&gt;Why is it sad?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;There is soooooo much more to life than working a crappy factory job. Why would you want to work when you dont have to and not enjoy everything that life has to offer? &lt;/p&gt;&lt;div style="font-size:16px"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family:'comic sans ms', sans-serif; font-size:medium"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
</div><p style="text-align:left"></p><p><span>How is working preventing me from enjoying life?  </span></p><p>If you dont know then I can't explain it to you. You seem happy with what you are doing and do not want anymore from life. </p>[/quote]

Again, incredibly rude.  Who are you to judge another person's life, based on your own?

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 07-10-2013 - 9:52am

savcal2011 wrote:
<p>Oh, and add this:</p><p>"You seem happy with what you are doing and do not want anymore from life. " -- We should ALL be so content.   If we were all that content, then I think the world would be a better, happier place.</p>

I know someone who is never happy, they are never content, always complaining, always wanting more and expecting it to be handed to them instead of going out and working for it, doing more, they just want it....they are not always a fun person to be around.  

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 07-10-2013 - 9:54am

<<Going through what you are going through with you dd, I would think you would see what I mean about doing other things in life that are just so more important than a job that you do not need. IMO, that would have changed my life and I would have made a turn-around and realize what IS important in life and going to a job that I truly do not need would not be it.>>

Based on the posts here, I can see that would be the case, that isn't good. I just don't understand why you would work at a job that didn't mean anything to you, that didn't bring value to your life outside of the money you earn.  You have been there a long time, why do you continue to work at a job that means so little to you?



PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 07-10-2013 - 10:30am

springfever2013 wrote:
I find that incredibly sad that there would be nothing gained by not working.</span></p>

I don't.  My grandparents continued working long after they retired--for the sheer love of what they did.  They just worked shorter hours and took lots more "breaks"--can't really call it vacation when you're already retired.  Same with both of my parents, who worked part time at things they loved doing after they retired.  Why?  Because they enjoyed it. They liked working

I expect I'll work part time after I retire, too.  I'd love to work at a quilt shop or as an instructor or something along those lines; how fun would that be?? :)

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Wed, 07-10-2013 - 10:36am

springfever2013 wrote:
Not offense taken as a promotion IS on my horizon. <img src="/forums/sites/all/libraries/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-laughing.gif" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" border="0" /></span></span></strong></span></p>

Wow and after only 18 years!  They must be fast-tracking you.

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Registered: 06-28-2013
Wed, 07-10-2013 - 11:31am
Springfever2013, why do you work?
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Wed, 07-10-2013 - 11:40am

Springfever2013, why do you work?

To pay the bills Foulball. Welcome. I see you are a new member Laughing

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