My little taste

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My little taste
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Fri, 07-05-2013 - 11:53am

Today I am getting a little taste of what it would be like if I were to SAH rather than WOH.   I am off work and DH is working.

I am getting  the errands done that I usually do Friday evening/weekends. Really enjoyed doing my grocery shopping when the stores were fairly empty.  In a bit I am going out for lunch with DD3.

I do realize that it is just a small taste.  If I were home full time I would not be doing laundry, grocery shopping or going out for lunch every day and there are some things that I would be doing that I am not today. 

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Sat, 07-06-2013 - 1:33pm

ong>Are you never off when your dh is working? Just asking because even when I had kids at home (they were in school) I have had days off at home alone to run errands and just be home alone so to me this is not a foreign concept. </strong></p>[/quote]

Since he gets a lot more vacation time off than I do it is extremely rare for me to have an entire day off when he is at work. He on the other hand is off about 5-8 days a year when I am at work.

But since he works a regular 8 hour day and I usually only 6-7 and sometimes even less I often have a couple of hours off in the afternoon when he is at work.

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Sat, 07-06-2013 - 1:36pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>That's exactly my thought.  Having a day off work and enjoying it alone or with friends or your kids isn't some foreign concept to a WOHP nor is it something only exclusive to a SAHP, That's what threw me off too, Lol. </p>

Having an entire day off while my DH is at work is a rarity for me. 

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Sat, 07-06-2013 - 1:44pm

an>We just found it odd for someone to NEVER have a day off by themselves. Even when you ARE a SAHM (as she said she was), your kids go to school or other places and you have the opportunity to be alone. </span></span></strong></p>[/quote]

I never stated in my post that I NEVER have a day off by myself.  But it is rare because usually when I am off DH is also off.  I did have some time when as a SAHM when my kids were in school all day.  But even that is different then being home now because I still had their schdeules to plan my day around,  could not plan anything before their left for school and had to make sure to be home when they got home from school.  Unlike yesterday when my time was completely my own.

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Sat, 07-06-2013 - 1:57pm

">It just makes no sense to say that you are getting a "taste" of something that surely sounds like you have had before. Shrug.</span></strong></p>[/quote]

It is a taste because it is the first time I can remember it happening in the circumstances I am now.  a WOH emptynester.

Having an entire day off now druing the normal work week is much different from being home when the kids were in school as an SAHM.

It is also different from having a couple hours off in the afternoon, which I rountinely do.


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Sat, 07-06-2013 - 7:36pm

    I never stated in my post that I NEVER have a day off by myself.  But it is rare because usually when I am off DH is also off.  I did have some time when as a SAHM when my kids were in school all day.  But even that is different then being home now because I still had their schdeules to plan my day around,  could not plan anything before their left for school and had to make sure to be home when they got home from school.  Unlike yesterday when my time was completely my own.

    Gotcha but you STILL had 7 hours to yourself when they were in school. I have NEVER made plans BEFORE my kids would be in school anyway so that would not mean anything to me and IME, most things were done before the 7 hours anyway. 

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    Sat, 07-06-2013 - 8:26pm

    Gotcha but you STILL had 7 hours to yourself when they were in school. I have NEVER made plans BEFORE my kids would be in school anyway so that would not mean anything to me and IME, most things were done before the 7 hours anyway. </span></strong></p></div></div></div></div>[/quote]

    Since it has been almost 17 years since I was a SAHM with children in school full time I still think that yesterday would qualifly as a rare event. 

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    Sat, 07-06-2013 - 8:30pm

      Gotcha but you STILL had 7 hours to yourself when they were in school. I have NEVER made plans BEFORE my kids would be in school anyway so that would not mean anything to me and IME, most things were done before the 7 hours anyway. </span></strong></p></div></div></div></div>[/quote]

      Since it has been almost 17 years since I was a SAHM with children in school full time I still think that yesterday would qualifly as a rare event. 

      So you have gone 17 years WITHOUT having a day to yourself? Sorry to hear that :(

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      Sat, 07-06-2013 - 8:42pm

      springfever2013 wrote:
      <div style="color:#111111; font-family:Arial, Helvetica, Helvetica, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size:13px; font-style:normal; font-variant:normal; font-weight:normal; text-align:left; text-indent:0px; text-transform:none; background-color:#ffffff"><div><ul></ul></div></div><div style="border-bottom-color:#cccccc; border-bottom-width:1px; border-bottom-style:solid; color:#111111; font-style:normal; font-variant:normal; font-weight:normal; text-align:left; text-indent:0px; text-transform:none; background-color:#ffffff"><div><div><div><p style="font-family:Arial, Helvetica, Helvetica, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size:13px">Gotcha but you STILL had 7 hours to yourself when they were in school. I have NEVER made plans BEFORE my kids would be in school anyway so that would not mean anything to me and IME, most things were done before the 7 hours anyway. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
      </p><p style="font-family:Arial, Helvetica, Helvetica, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size:13px"><span style="font-family:'comic sans ms', sans-serif; font-size:medium">Since it has been almost 17 years since I was a SAHM with children in school full time I still think that yesterday would qualifly as a rare event. </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-family:'comic sans ms', sans-serif; font-size:small">So you have gone 17 years WITHOUT having a day to yourself? Sorry to hear that :(</span></strong></p></div></div></div></div>[/quote]

      Oh, for heaven's sake. She didn't say that, either. 


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      Sat, 07-06-2013 - 8:56pm

      ">So you have gone 17 years WITHOUT having a day to yourself? Sorry to hear that :(</span></strong></p></div></div></div></div>[/quote]

      Again that is not what I said.  I said it has been 17 years since I was a SAHM with kids in full time school.  I do sometimes have full days alone but it is rare because usually when I am off DH is also off.  Don't need to feel sorry for me, I have a lot of time to myself, it just does not often come in full days.  I actually prefer what I do have almost daily blocks of time to myself. 

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      Mon, 07-08-2013 - 4:57pm

      <<Very different, I think even between the summer and school year with school age kids it can feel different.  I know that if I was sahm now with my kids that ages they are, I would have a lot of time that is completely my own.  I've felt that way for years, which is partly why I work.  

      Do you now enjoy time completely on your own? I am not really understanding this as I absolutely love the time I have just for myself and not even just doing things FOR myself but being able to do things in the home, running errands, etc. I actually miss my "me" time (my lunch hour during the week) during the summer when my teen is home (and awake lol). >>

      Of course I do, what a silly question...are you assuming that work takes up all of my me time?  Or that I don't enjoy working?  I'm not following your leap here from my comments to your question and/or misunderstanding.  What is that you don't understand and please note that I said nothing about not enjoying me time.


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