My little taste

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My little taste
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Fri, 07-05-2013 - 11:53am

Today I am getting a little taste of what it would be like if I were to SAH rather than WOH.   I am off work and DH is working.

I am getting  the errands done that I usually do Friday evening/weekends. Really enjoyed doing my grocery shopping when the stores were fairly empty.  In a bit I am going out for lunch with DD3.

I do realize that it is just a small taste.  If I were home full time I would not be doing laundry, grocery shopping or going out for lunch every day and there are some things that I would be doing that I am not today. 

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Tue, 07-09-2013 - 10:11am

<<Again this all comes down to things you do now that you would like to do more of when you retire or try new things. If I had more time I would be spending it with friends who I only get to see on the weekends or time when we are both free, cook more things, maybe more complex things that I don't have time for now, probably read more as I won't be as tired from working all day, volunteering, etc, etc. I could NEVER see too much time to myself as a disadvantage.>>

But you are assuming that everyone lives their lives as you do....and I think that would be rare.  I see friends during the week, I cook a lot even complex things on a regular basis, read a ton and so on and so forth.  Why is it hard to believe that some have a better balance in their lives than others?

Nope, I do not and I didn't say that EVERYONE would be interested in the things "I" would be. I have a good balance in my life right now but if you ask ANYONE what they would do if they did not work, you will get a range of different ideas and things and not many would say they would rather work. You also do not work full time, correct? You wouldn't be interested in seeing friends during the time that you DO work, maybe someone who works different hours and that you don't see as much because of that? Maybe volunteer for something that falls at the same time you work? I could go on and on and on. 


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Tue, 07-09-2013 - 10:12am

I'm also not comfortable with your use of the term "time to myself".  To me, "time to myself" indicates time spent alone.  "Time to myself" isn't spending it with frends or actively doing things. "Time to myself" to me means quiet, alone time.  And I'm not good with too much quiet alone time.

I can see that but any "time to myself" is time I would be able to do whatever I wanted to, either alone or with someone else or doing something.

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Tue, 07-09-2013 - 10:45am

<<<<Again this all comes down to things you do now that you would like to do more of when you retire or try new things. If I had more time I would be spending it with friends who I only get to see on the weekends or time when we are both free, cook more things, maybe more complex things that I don't have time for now, probably read more as I won't be as tired from working all day, volunteering, etc, etc. I could NEVER see too much time to myself as a disadvantage.>>

But you are assuming that everyone lives their lives as you do....and I think that would be rare.  I see friends during the week, I cook a lot even complex things on a regular basis, read a ton and so on and so forth.  Why is it hard to believe that some have a better balance in their lives than others?

Nope, I do not and I didn't say that EVERYONE would be interested in the things "I" would be. I have a good balance in my life right now but if you ask ANYONE what they would do if they did not work, you will get a range of different ideas and things and not many would say they would rather work. You also do not work full time, correct? You wouldn't be interested in seeing friends during the time that you DO work, maybe someone who works different hours and that you don't see as much because of that? Maybe volunteer for something that falls at the same time you work? I could go on and on and on. >>

OH spring, read the comments...I didn't say that you said that, I said you are assuming that people aren't already doing the things they want to do while you are not.   Most people I know wouldn't be whining about the things they want to do with more free time (while claiming they had balance in their life) they would go out and work to make those things happen.  You assume because you want to live your life differently that others are not happy with their own lives.

I work 35-40 hours a week, some would call that full time or almost full time.  I do see friends during the time I work if I want, I simply rearrange my schedule.  I can volunteer during my normal working hours, I simply move my time around.  I have volunteered for years during the school year, since my kids were in prek and it continues now through high school.  If I want to do something, I work to make it happen  What part of a good balance is not clear?  

I know a lot of people who would say they enjoy their work, lots.



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Tue, 07-09-2013 - 10:50am

OH spring, read the comments...I didn't say that you said that, I said you are assuming that people aren't already doing the things they want to do while you are not.   Most people I know wouldn't be whining about the things they want to do with more free time (while claiming they had balance in their life) they would go out and work to make those things happen.  You assume because you want to live your life differently that others are not happy with their own lives.

How so when they are working full time? 

I work 35-40 hours a week, some would call that full time or almost full time.  I do see friends during the time I work if I want, I simply rearrange my schedule.  I can volunteer during my normal working hours, I simply move my time around.  I have volunteered for years during the school year, since my kids were in prek and it continues now through high school.  If I want to do something, I work to make it happen  What part of a good balance is not clear?  

But you have to CHANGE your schedule. When you are not working, you most likely do not have to do that. I would not take a day off to go hang out with my friends who don't work or are off those days to hang out at the pool or whatever. If I wasn't working, I could easily do that. 

I know a lot of people who would say they enjoy their work, lots.

That is nice. Do you think the majority of people (in the world) would rather be working than doing other things in their lives?

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Tue, 07-09-2013 - 10:56am

<<I can see that but any "time to myself" is time I would be able to do whatever I wanted to, either alone or with someone else or doing something.>>

Using that definition...that's most of my time.

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Tue, 07-09-2013 - 11:03am

<<How so when they are working full time? >>

What does that have to do with having balance in their life or being happy with their lives?  

<<But you have to CHANGE your schedule. When you are not working, you most likely do not have to do that. I would not take a day off to go hang out with my friends who don't work or are off those days to hang out at the pool or whatever. If I wasn't working, I could easily do that. >>

I would have to change my schedule regardless, I don't just sit around waiting for things to happen, I usually have a plan for the day no matter what it includes.  If I wasn't working, there would be other things to fill up my days, working just happens to be a productive use of my free time.  I change my schedule all the time...morning, noon and night my schedule changes.   I rearrange my schedule on a constant basis....especially in the summer.  I couldn't tell you how many days I'm working next week...have no clue at the moment.  lol.

<<That is nice. Do you think the majority of people (in the world) would rather be working than doing other things in their lives?>>

Yes it is, I know a lot of happy people, is that shocking to you or something?  I can't speak for the majority of the people in the world, that's a silly question.

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Tue, 07-09-2013 - 11:09am

"But you have to CHANGE your schedule. When you are not working, you most likely do not have to do that. "

I disagree.  It's possible for schedules to conflict, plans to have to be changed, even when one doesn't work.

"I would not take a day off to go hang out with my friends who don't work or are off those days to hang out at the pool or whatever." 

I would. In fact, I'm doing so on Friday. 

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Tue, 07-09-2013 - 11:13am

<<How so when they are working full time? >>

What does that have to do with having balance in their life or being happy with their lives?  

I never said that. I said if you are working full time, the majority of your time is working, not doing things you would be doing if you were not working.

<<But you have to CHANGE your schedule. When you are not working, you most likely do not have to do that. I would not take a day off to go hang out with my friends who don't work or are off those days to hang out at the pool or whatever. If I wasn't working, I could easily do that. >>

I would have to change my schedule regardless, I don't just sit around waiting for things to happen, I usually have a plan for the day no matter what it includes.  If I wasn't working, there would be other things to fill up my days, working just happens to be a productive use of my free time.  I change my schedule all the time...morning, noon and night my schedule changes.   I rearrange my schedule on a constant basis....especially in the summer.  I couldn't tell you how many days I'm working next week...have no clue at the moment.  lol.

So you basically do NOT have a 9-5 (or time like that) job. So you basically can not answer this question. Thanks Laughing I guess when you work for smaller companies, you can do that. Shrug.

<<That is nice. Do you think the majority of people (in the world) would rather be working than doing other things in their lives?>>

Yes it is, I know a lot of happy people, is that shocking to you or something?  I can't speak for the majority of the people in the world, that's a silly question.

I am happy too as well as my other co-workers but if they were given an option to work or not work, it would be a no brainer. Many people don't need to have a job to fill their time. They could easily find other things to do and if they had the option would not pick work before that. 

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Tue, 07-09-2013 - 11:15am

But you have to CHANGE your schedule. When you are not working, you most likely do not have to do that. "

I disagree.  It's possible for schedules to conflict, plans to have to be changed, even when one doesn't work.

Yes it IS possible but I don't think as MUCH as they would it you had a full time job. 

"I would not take a day off to go hang out with my friends who don't work or are off those days to hang out at the pool or whatever." 

I would. In fact, I'm doing so on Friday. 

Do you do that every week? I would be doing that every week or every other week if I did not work.

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Tue, 07-09-2013 - 11:31am

"I said if you are working full time, the majority of your time is working, not doing things you would be doing if you were not working."

Math isn't your strongest subject, is it?  168 hours in a week. 40-50 spent working.  So 118-128 spent not working. So working is NOT the majority of most people's time.  Shoot, take out sleeping (56 hours - for a HIGH average) and you still have 56-72 hours spent not working. Still not the majority.

 

"Many people don't need to have a job to fill their time."

No, most people need a job to support their families.   But they may also need it to fulfill other wants/desires in their lives.

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