A Neat and Clean House vs Children

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A Neat and Clean House vs Children
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Tue, 07-27-2010 - 8:35am

For those of you who like a neat and clean house, how do you keep it that way with children?

I find that if I am tied to goal of having a neat and clean house, I become a raging shrew against my children as they proceed to undo all the neatness I have worked so hard to attain. If I made a "neat and clean house" my goal, my children would not have their messy projects that take days/weeks to complete. My children would not pick up a book (casually left out)as they walk through the family room and browse through- discovering once again the mother actually knows about a few good books. I would let them watch more tv/computer time, as they don't make things as messy when they do. I would squash their ideas if I thought it would make too much of a mess. I wouldn't let them cook/experiment in the kitchen- as it is usually more work for me to clean up after they have "cleaned up". So, how do you inspire creativity and imagination in a neat and clean house? Are you on top of them to put things away as soon as they are done even if it is temporary? Where do you put the legos?....... Have you ever allowed them to take over the living room with all of their toys arranged in a city complex (thomas the train things were the Metro, legos and blocks were the buildings....)? How long would it stay up? Would let it be up for the summer so they could add to and change tings around as they got new ideas? Or allowed them to take over half of the family room for a month+ while they build and live in a beaver lodge (using all the empty shoe and other boxes and some that weren't empty)? Even if you have to walk around it everyday to get to the kitchen? Or do you require that all toys be put away everyday?

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Tue, 07-27-2010 - 11:30am

That doesn't sound at all like things wouldn't be different for your kids with a sitter.

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Tue, 07-27-2010 - 11:38am

Every.single.time. you mention "free dangling time" I imagine a watch on the end of a chain, lol.

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Tue, 07-27-2010 - 11:45am

i almost tagged your reply about organization in the other thread, that in order to concentrate things need to be neat, well organized?

 

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Tue, 07-27-2010 - 11:57am

It wouldn't be identical for the kids, no way. It wouldn't be Mom here doing those things. But the kids would still be home all day. They still could do MUCH of what they do (toys, games, books, tv, computers, etc) and eat at their kitchen table, the food that I have for the sitter to prepare for them. Get up when they want. Stay in their pjs all day if they don't want to put tee and shorts on, that kind of thing.


As far as what I do around the house and my hobbies, yeah, I could still do that and woh but I wouldn't have the time to sit and curl up and watch 2 hours of spongebob with the kids for example, that 2 hours of complete down do nothing time would then be spent at an office (with me having NO fun & watching the clock to come home)


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Tue, 07-27-2010 - 11:58am
lol that is funny. Okay, with today's dangling free time I'm watching Bachelorette and House Hunters ha ha Not a watch lol

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Tue, 07-27-2010 - 12:31pm
How can you be home all the time and go on trips and to Disney and to friends houses for barbecues? It sounds like your definition of"all the time"is a bit stretched.
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Tue, 07-27-2010 - 12:34pm

Have you ever let your children take over the living room or family room with their toys to create a different space (eg. beaver lodge, city, space port....)? Have you ever let it stay up for 24 hours? 48hours? a week? A season?

Where can your children take chances, make mistakes and get messy?

In a different post you mentioned coloring and playing with playdoh- neither of which inspired my children and are not particularly messy IMO.

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Tue, 07-27-2010 - 12:38pm
The house isn't that important to me.
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Tue, 07-27-2010 - 12:41pm
Oh and add that we have a Rec Room upstairs. That's where the kids are allowed to be messy, cluttery (dh too, lol) etc.
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Tue, 07-27-2010 - 1:32pm

No, looking at a week by week basis, unless we are on a vacation I'm home with the exception of 1 day a week I do grocery/errands. For example, last week I was in for days and days until I went to a 9:30 movie w/some girlfriends then I was back in until the weekend. This week I've been in for a few days and I'll be in until Friday evening.


We don't go to people's houses very much, In fact, we have accepted 1 invitiation in the last 6 months or longer. It was for a bbq after one of their children we have known for years & years married that day. The parents were entertaining their friends w/a big get together after the days events.


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