A Neat and Clean House vs Children

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A Neat and Clean House vs Children
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Tue, 07-27-2010 - 8:35am

For those of you who like a neat and clean house, how do you keep it that way with children?

I find that if I am tied to goal of having a neat and clean house, I become a raging shrew against my children as they proceed to undo all the neatness I have worked so hard to attain. If I made a "neat and clean house" my goal, my children would not have their messy projects that take days/weeks to complete. My children would not pick up a book (casually left out)as they walk through the family room and browse through- discovering once again the mother actually knows about a few good books. I would let them watch more tv/computer time, as they don't make things as messy when they do. I would squash their ideas if I thought it would make too much of a mess. I wouldn't let them cook/experiment in the kitchen- as it is usually more work for me to clean up after they have "cleaned up". So, how do you inspire creativity and imagination in a neat and clean house? Are you on top of them to put things away as soon as they are done even if it is temporary? Where do you put the legos?....... Have you ever allowed them to take over the living room with all of their toys arranged in a city complex (thomas the train things were the Metro, legos and blocks were the buildings....)? How long would it stay up? Would let it be up for the summer so they could add to and change tings around as they got new ideas? Or allowed them to take over half of the family room for a month+ while they build and live in a beaver lodge (using all the empty shoe and other boxes and some that weren't empty)? Even if you have to walk around it everyday to get to the kitchen? Or do you require that all toys be put away everyday?

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Fri, 07-30-2010 - 6:51pm
Okay, that sounds seriously awesome. Recipe?

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Fri, 07-30-2010 - 7:07pm
The difference isn't "here's a salad or sandwich" and "here's chicken and potatoes." The difference is "Here's chicken and potatoes" and "Go make yourself a salad or a sandwich if you won't eat what I made."



Got that. But which one a parent "has to do" is based on what outcome the parent wants. So PD has to do what she does, because it works for her and has the desired outcome she wants. If it wasn't working for her, that'd be a different story.

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Fri, 07-30-2010 - 7:07pm

No I would

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Fri, 07-30-2010 - 7:12pm
A teenager is more than able to cook his/her own meal, in whatever quantity said teenager requires, if said teenager is still so childish as to refuse food cooked for him/her. A teenager should be ashamed if Mommy still has to cook him/her a separate meal, lest said teenager be hungry, in addition to shamefully picky.



A mother is perfectly able to prepare a meal taking into account all the people who will be at the table and their preferences, in whatever manner she sees fit. Plus PDs teenagers aren't refusing food cooked for him/her, because PD is cooking food that the teenagers will eat. And there is nothing shameful about a person not liking a particular food and that person's mother, father, spouse, brother, friend, sponsor, neighbor, etc., choosing not to use that food item when cooking for that person, especially when your sibling who will be at the same meal is allergic to that same food.

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Fri, 07-30-2010 - 7:25pm
For my kids, it's important for me that they are not picky eaters as adults. There are several people that I cook for occasionally who are picky. I find it kind of frustrating to find things to accommodate everyone's preferences-- especially when they contradict one another. DH and I both eat pretty much anything. It certainly isn't shameful, and I've never run into an adult who is rude about the food served to him or her. However, I have made something on occasion that I thought everyone would like, only to find out that at least one person did not like one of the major ingredients. I would prefer my kids to eat whatever is served to them, even if they don't particularly love it.
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Fri, 07-30-2010 - 7:35pm

"For my kids, it's important for me that they are not picky eaters as adults."

You really do not have any control over that. While you may be able to make sure that they eat things that they do not particularly as children (and you are with them). When they are adults the ball is fully in their court over whether or not they will eat something they do not like.

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Fri, 07-30-2010 - 7:46pm
Total control? Of course not. But I do think that how parents handle picky eating when their kids are kids can influence whether or not they remain picky eaters as adults.
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Fri, 07-30-2010 - 7:49pm
I have to disagree with that. People's taste change many times and some things you liked as a kid you might not like as an adult and the opposite.
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Fri, 07-30-2010 - 7:52pm
By that same token, I can't imagine being the kind of woman who would wait in the car while my husband changed the tire. I would presume that both would get out and work together to change the tire.

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Fri, 07-30-2010 - 7:54pm

I know people who refuse to eat as adults foods that they were forced to eat as children.

I also know people who were given their own choice on what to eat as children who became much less picky as adults.

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