A Neat and Clean House vs Children

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Registered: 07-17-2007
A Neat and Clean House vs Children
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Tue, 07-27-2010 - 8:35am

For those of you who like a neat and clean house, how do you keep it that way with children?

I find that if I am tied to goal of having a neat and clean house, I become a raging shrew against my children as they proceed to undo all the neatness I have worked so hard to attain. If I made a "neat and clean house" my goal, my children would not have their messy projects that take days/weeks to complete. My children would not pick up a book (casually left out)as they walk through the family room and browse through- discovering once again the mother actually knows about a few good books. I would let them watch more tv/computer time, as they don't make things as messy when they do. I would squash their ideas if I thought it would make too much of a mess. I wouldn't let them cook/experiment in the kitchen- as it is usually more work for me to clean up after they have "cleaned up". So, how do you inspire creativity and imagination in a neat and clean house? Are you on top of them to put things away as soon as they are done even if it is temporary? Where do you put the legos?....... Have you ever allowed them to take over the living room with all of their toys arranged in a city complex (thomas the train things were the Metro, legos and blocks were the buildings....)? How long would it stay up? Would let it be up for the summer so they could add to and change tings around as they got new ideas? Or allowed them to take over half of the family room for a month+ while they build and live in a beaver lodge (using all the empty shoe and other boxes and some that weren't empty)? Even if you have to walk around it everyday to get to the kitchen? Or do you require that all toys be put away everyday?

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Registered: 04-16-2010
Tue, 07-27-2010 - 2:00pm
No, the part where you said that "if you ring the door bell w/out calling I don't even respond to the door".
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Registered: 07-09-2010
Tue, 07-27-2010 - 2:02pm

Our home is welcome and inviting. That is a big goal daily not only for guests but more importantly for my husband, kids and myself.


The reason I do not answer the door is we have been told my the police department and keep getting reminders through our neighborhood association that is not wise or safe to go to the door unless you know for sure WHO is there so I just told everyone, family & friends, you are welcome anytime, you don't have to plan a visit, come to my door anytime, but you DO need to call me as you ring the doorbell so I will know it is YOU.


Our neighbors don't go to one another's house unless you call first.


Another friend is married to a police detective and he says this is an important thing to do and they don't answer the door in their home either unless they can SEE clearly WHO it is or they get that call at the very least from their front porch.


Or text!


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Registered: 01-08-2009
Tue, 07-27-2010 - 2:05pm
That sounds nice, the barbecue, but that means that you do go out occasionally.
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Registered: 07-09-2010
Tue, 07-27-2010 - 2:05pm

Ah, it is called "safety" based on the advise of the police department and a sah friend's husband who is chief of detectives.


I addressed this just a second ago but don't know post #


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Registered: 11-22-2000
Tue, 07-27-2010 - 2:08pm
I thought that's what peepholes and security cameras were for.

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Registered: 07-09-2010
Tue, 07-27-2010 - 2:08pm

Only occasionally, but yah. I went to a movie with some girlfriends last week. Going again this week if we can find one we want to see (I don't think the summer movie selection is all that great this year)


It was lovely. Watching the boy that we have known all his life marry a beautiful sweet young lady before God and begin their lives together w/a reception and then to visit our friends as they celebrate after the kids are off to their honeymoon w/family and friends, it was a wonderful event. My kids loved it all. The wedding, the food, going to our friends house. (their teenage daughter is our babysitter, sweet girl)


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Registered: 04-16-2010
Tue, 07-27-2010 - 2:08pm

I didn't realize that you lived in such a dangerous neighborhood.

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Registered: 07-09-2010
Tue, 07-27-2010 - 2:11pm

Cameras yes. But are you always where you can even monitor before going to the door? That is the big thing.


Peepholes, hmm, they are great if you a) have a door that isn't all glass (like the new french double door designs that you don't cover so open to the world) or b) if you don't have windows around or close to the door where the person on the front porch can see you before you check the peephole.


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Registered: 01-08-2009
Tue, 07-27-2010 - 2:11pm
The last time my doorbell rang and it wasn't a neighbor or somebody I know, it was a man come to tell me my husband was in a car wreck down at the end of the street. I appreciated knowing.
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Registered: 07-09-2010
Tue, 07-27-2010 - 2:14pm

WE DON'T! But they (police department) tells EVERYONE no matter WHERE you live (even if gated driveway or gated neighborhood)

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