A Neat and Clean House vs Children

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A Neat and Clean House vs Children
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Tue, 07-27-2010 - 8:35am

For those of you who like a neat and clean house, how do you keep it that way with children?

I find that if I am tied to goal of having a neat and clean house, I become a raging shrew against my children as they proceed to undo all the neatness I have worked so hard to attain. If I made a "neat and clean house" my goal, my children would not have their messy projects that take days/weeks to complete. My children would not pick up a book (casually left out)as they walk through the family room and browse through- discovering once again the mother actually knows about a few good books. I would let them watch more tv/computer time, as they don't make things as messy when they do. I would squash their ideas if I thought it would make too much of a mess. I wouldn't let them cook/experiment in the kitchen- as it is usually more work for me to clean up after they have "cleaned up". So, how do you inspire creativity and imagination in a neat and clean house? Are you on top of them to put things away as soon as they are done even if it is temporary? Where do you put the legos?....... Have you ever allowed them to take over the living room with all of their toys arranged in a city complex (thomas the train things were the Metro, legos and blocks were the buildings....)? How long would it stay up? Would let it be up for the summer so they could add to and change tings around as they got new ideas? Or allowed them to take over half of the family room for a month+ while they build and live in a beaver lodge (using all the empty shoe and other boxes and some that weren't empty)? Even if you have to walk around it everyday to get to the kitchen? Or do you require that all toys be put away everyday?

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Registered: 07-09-2010
Tue, 07-27-2010 - 2:39pm

I go to NO meetings (addressed that).


Yes, we do vacation. I grocery shop.


If we don't find a movie this week we want to see I'm home until Sat and I've been home since Sun.


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Registered: 07-09-2010
Tue, 07-27-2010 - 2:41pm
We are certain about ours too (zero crime rate makes you feel good) but we take the advise seriously and follow that procedure.

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Registered: 07-09-2010
Tue, 07-27-2010 - 2:43pm

I can't imagine being lonely at home. Never experienced that.


But I do have a social life.


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Registered: 05-10-2009
Tue, 07-27-2010 - 2:43pm

What about friends without

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Registered: 05-10-2009
Tue, 07-27-2010 - 2:45pm

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Yes, one can be too safe. If taking safety precautions prevents one from having a "normal" life, from having relationships and being out in the world, then yes, one can be too safe.

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Registered: 07-09-2010
Tue, 07-27-2010 - 2:45pm
And that is one of the things w/us. Both of our dens are on the backside of the house. Can't see even out a front window from either room. The windows look out to a secluded backyard. Can't see much (a little) of any neighbors. Then you add in kids playing, laughing, and a couple of tv's on the door bell easily gets lost in the noise.

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Registered: 01-08-2009
Tue, 07-27-2010 - 2:48pm
Our neighborhood doesn't have zero crime rate, but it has (almost) zero violent crime rate. We've had a couple of issues with junior high kids slashing tires and things like that over the years. One of the things that makes it safe though, is that all day long, from about 5 in the morning until 9 or 10 at night, there are people out taking walks, walking their dogs, sitting on their front porches watching people go by and socializing, kids riding bikes, etc. Criminals like to go to places where they are not likely to be noticed, and in our neighborhood, everybody notices everything. (That has its bad side as well. A kid can't pee behind a tree without somebody telling his Mom about it!)
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Tue, 07-27-2010 - 2:48pm
Where I live, the most expensive hoity toity neighborhoods have the higher crime rates. Crooks aren't stupid, they go where the money is.
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Registered: 07-09-2010
Tue, 07-27-2010 - 2:52pm

I don't think I know anyone these days w/out a cell phone AND texting! Even our parents.


The only neighbors we ever talk to are right here by us. I know one neighbor on the other side just as a hi, how are you at the mailbox or when we walk but they would go to my next door neighbor because they know she and I talk (by phone, in the yard). Both of the neighbors have our cell numbers, we have theirs. They don't answer their door unless they KNOW it is YOU at the door so they follow same procedure. Both of their dens are on the front of the house so if I just walked over they could see me clearly and opens the door before I even get to their door and close enough to ring the doorbell anyway.


In our house depends on WHERE you are in the house. If you are in one of the dens, you can't hear the doorbell in the basement den usually because of the tv. The den upstairs is on the back of the house and no, if someone rings the door bell unless I go through the kitchen and then through the dining room to peep out the window I can't see WHO is at the door. If I'm upstairs I can look out front window in some rooms but then again I have some windows upstairs that I can't see (if they are driving I can look to see the car or truck and then know who it is)


If I walk towards the door the person could see me from front door or

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Registered: 07-09-2010
Tue, 07-27-2010 - 2:54pm
that isn't my personal experience but yes, ita one can take it too far and that would be really sad imho.

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