Need Opinions...SAHM or Work

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Registered: 10-08-2004
Need Opinions...SAHM or Work
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Tue, 03-22-2005 - 12:36pm

Hello

This is my first post to this board. I have been lucking for quite a while. I am currently a SAHM during the week, I work weekends. I am contemplating going back to work fulltime and am very anxious about putting my four year old in daycare. I have tried it twice and failed. I cannot stop worrying about him. The first time I tried to put him in a moms morning out program he had to be taken from the car by force and it ripped my heart out. I spent the entire 4 hours feeling guilty about leaving him. This continued for two months before I just couldn't take it anymore. He is my achilles heal. He is very attached to me because he and I spend a Great deal of time together watching Noggin, Nick and PBS while coloring and playing. I had a very hard time during my pregnancy and during his birth. I love being with him but I also want to get back into the workforce. I know that if I go back to work that I will miss my time with him. I will be working 50 hours per week if I go back fulltime instead of the 20-25 weekend only hours I work now.

What do I do??? Please give me your opinions. Please tell me how you cope with returning to work after being a SAHM for five years. Is going back to work the right thing to do?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2003
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 7:07pm
So, if one doesn't believe that putting a child in daycare is bad, they must automatically think that SAH is bad? I think not.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 7:11pm
LOL! I couldnt help it. There was no way I could have been graceful with that one, plus Lauren would suspect I was still having a bad day. Was waaaaaay down today, but that was totally hilarious. I feel better now. ...... her youth. that went out the window *years* ago. LOL. too funny.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2005
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 7:14pm
for a women with ... 'say you tell me. '.....try reading the post without your emotinal guilt, no where did I state women who work have horrible kids you only see what you choose to see...that I opinion comes from reading your angry post through out....
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-16-2005
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 7:17pm
(What did I miss?)
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-18-2004
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 7:18pm

1. you consider someone you have to pay a extended family member so be it
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Interestingly, my DCP took one look at my DH this morning and told us not to pick up the baby - she is keeping her for the night (we got MAYBE 4 hours of sleep last night).

Mondo

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2005
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 7:19pm
thankyouverymuch.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2005
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 7:21pm
No my 401 K and IRAs.....not to mention a trust you
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-18-2004
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 7:23pm

a trust you?


If you have a 401K, you are an Evil Working Mom.

Mondo

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2005
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 7:23pm
My point exactly !!! choice...I choose my children over a job ......sorry if your priorities are different I never said you or anyone else were a horrible mom cause you worked out of the home....
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2005
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 7:31pm
I follow your thoughts ... to me you have them ...you provide for them the best you can both emotionally and physically.....I just believe in putting children first...

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