Neighborly advice needed re neighbors

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Registered: 10-17-2006
Neighborly advice needed re neighbors
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Fri, 11-30-2007 - 9:28am

Hi, I am a work from home mom, (internet sales) so I am kind of both a working mom and a stay at home mom, (stay at home moms are working moms too because the work is every bit as hard!)but I am having a problem and was wondering if anyone had any thoughts on this.


One of my neighbors is also a work from home mom. She makes crafts and sells them. Once a year she has a Christmas get together with other crafters at her home and invites all the neighbors by

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Registered: 03-24-2006
Fri, 11-30-2007 - 10:33am

Hey there,


I am all for turning the other cheek like you mentioned, but to me turning the other cheek means not hitting back.

Michelle, mom to Alec

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Registered: 10-17-2006
Fri, 11-30-2007 - 10:57am

Hi and thanks for responding. Yes I am thinking along those same lines.

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Registered: 01-05-2000
Fri, 11-30-2007 - 11:12am

Just because you are invited, doesn't mean you have to go or buy, regardless if it's the office/work or the neighbors. You can either politely decline the invitation to the neighbor's craft party or just not show up. It doesn't sound like they really expect you to go anyway. On the other hand, I would invite them to your open house even though you don't expect them to show up. It's the polite thing to do and can help defuse any problems over parking that might show up later.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 11-30-2007 - 11:18am

You are so much nicer then me. I wouldn't invite people that I didn't actually

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Fri, 11-30-2007 - 11:30am
i feel an obligation to buy when i go to those parties,too.

 

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Registered: 01-05-2000
Fri, 11-30-2007 - 11:32am

I believe firmly in the verse in the New Testament where Jesus talks about being nice to your enemy. It's like heaping hot coals on their head. Works for me.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 11-30-2007 - 11:32am
I NEVER go to parties that involve buying anything -- especially tea lights, party lites, tupperware, pampered chef, longaberger, avon, silpata, sex toys (really we're good on our own) you name it... the worst kind of party there is.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 01-05-2000
Fri, 11-30-2007 - 11:33am

Some I've gone to and some I've declined. When I do go, if I don't have the money or it's not something I want/need, I don't buy. Just enjoy the fellowship and food.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 11-30-2007 - 11:36am

I wouldn't go out of my way to be mean but I can take a hint, you say you have nothing in common with me(what the one person told her) then

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Fri, 11-30-2007 - 12:06pm

   

 

 

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