No more daycare

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Registered: 08-26-2007
No more daycare
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Fri, 02-08-2008 - 4:55pm
So, my boss needs people to work on weekends. A lot. I talked it over with my husband, and we figured that if I worked the two ten hour days on the weekends while he is home with the baby, we can cut out daycare and it might be better financially. (I work three tens now, during the week). We also live really far and use a lot of gas.
So, I took it, took the baby out of daycare, and now I am regretting it, but can't change my mind.
Most moms want to avoid daycare, but I am crushed. I did not realize until now that they were a part of my family!!!! I had an extremely, extremely rough pregnancy and I met them when I was 7 months along. They have been great to all three of us from the get-go.
I want to say this. Most sahms will say, "I don't want a daycare raising my child", and we wohms will always refute that, but let me tell you, I didn't know how much I Wanted someone *sharing* raising her with me.
My husband and I don't have a support system, and they were it. The daycare was our support system. I did not even realize that until now. It was priceless to have someone to share our pride and joy with.
The good news is is that they aren't completely gone. The director didn't take my baby off of the books, she left her on and told me I can bring her any time at the drop in day rate. I can resume regular care again if needed, at the same rate. I had paid some money ahead, and they used it as a credit. She's already going back 3 more days this month, but it just feels so much like dh's and my "third person" is gone.
I cannot believe I feel this way after hearing so many moms talk about not wanting their kids in daycare. Ours was good for us.

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Registered: 03-21-2001
In reply to: mom2ajoy
Sat, 02-09-2008 - 6:20pm

I'm sorry.

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Registered: 07-04-2007
In reply to: mom2ajoy
Sun, 02-10-2008 - 6:28am

I have been going through very similar feelings.

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Registered: 01-22-2006
In reply to: mom2ajoy
Mon, 02-11-2008 - 8:11pm

<< Most sahms will say, "I don't want a daycare raising my child",>>

Really? Most?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: mom2ajoy
Tue, 02-12-2008 - 3:06pm

"Really? Most?"

I would say "most" is almost an understatement. IMHO, almost all of SAHM's would say they don't want a day care raising their child.

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Registered: 09-04-1997
In reply to: mom2ajoy
Tue, 02-12-2008 - 3:09pm
Well....I'm a WOHM and I wouldn't want a daycare raising my kid, either. But I wasn't aware they offered that service at all!
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Registered: 11-08-2006
In reply to: mom2ajoy
Tue, 02-12-2008 - 7:40pm

Gee, ya think that wohms wouldn't want "dc raising their child" either?

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Registered: 07-17-2007
In reply to: mom2ajoy
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 6:57am

I totally agree.


"I would say "most" is almost an understatement. IMHO, almost all of SAHM's would say they don't want a day care raising their child."


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Registered: 06-08-2007
In reply to: mom2ajoy
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 11:01am
I worked weekends only for many years. It was great at first, but at about year 2-3, it gets to be a drag never having a weekend like everyone else, even though you have 5 days off every week. That was my only issue, lack of weekend.
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Registered: 08-26-2007
In reply to: mom2ajoy
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 11:04am
It's already starting to be a drag, realizing that I can't go to church now. But, I must admit, being home M-F is really starting to be nice. For me, that is. It's a much needed break.
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Registered: 06-08-2007
In reply to: mom2ajoy
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 11:10am
I could take 8 days off a year, that's sick,vacation,everything. At first it was ok, I was making it just taking the occasional weekend off every few months or the occasional day off, but it was unpaid so it always hurt. But finally I couldn't do it anymore, now

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