No more daycare

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Registered: 08-26-2007
No more daycare
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Fri, 02-08-2008 - 4:55pm
So, my boss needs people to work on weekends. A lot. I talked it over with my husband, and we figured that if I worked the two ten hour days on the weekends while he is home with the baby, we can cut out daycare and it might be better financially. (I work three tens now, during the week). We also live really far and use a lot of gas.
So, I took it, took the baby out of daycare, and now I am regretting it, but can't change my mind.
Most moms want to avoid daycare, but I am crushed. I did not realize until now that they were a part of my family!!!! I had an extremely, extremely rough pregnancy and I met them when I was 7 months along. They have been great to all three of us from the get-go.
I want to say this. Most sahms will say, "I don't want a daycare raising my child", and we wohms will always refute that, but let me tell you, I didn't know how much I Wanted someone *sharing* raising her with me.
My husband and I don't have a support system, and they were it. The daycare was our support system. I did not even realize that until now. It was priceless to have someone to share our pride and joy with.
The good news is is that they aren't completely gone. The director didn't take my baby off of the books, she left her on and told me I can bring her any time at the drop in day rate. I can resume regular care again if needed, at the same rate. I had paid some money ahead, and they used it as a credit. She's already going back 3 more days this month, but it just feels so much like dh's and my "third person" is gone.
I cannot believe I feel this way after hearing so many moms talk about not wanting their kids in daycare. Ours was good for us.

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Registered: 10-17-2006
In reply to: mom2ajoy
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 12:48am

Not in my experience, but YMMV.

 

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Registered: 10-13-2007
In reply to: mom2ajoy
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 7:48pm

Boy you aren't judgmental at all are you????


Not that I give a CRAP about what you think, but I have stay home with my kids because it is what works for me, my husband and our 4 kids. I have worked when I wanted and when it worked for us, I have stayed home when that worked! We happen to like the idea of one of us being here to take care of the kids, to take them to the park or library when we could. We like having me here to take care of errands and housework that would have taken time in the evening if we both worked. We like

Lori

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Registered: 08-26-2007
In reply to: mom2ajoy
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 6:20pm

"I am a stay at home mom for the moment and I can say that I am sure I have never said that. I don't think day care raises kids. parents do whether they work or not. I choose to be here for many reasons with my kids but avoiding daycare so they weren't the ones raising my kids wasn't my goal!!

Please don't lump all stay at home moms into one category, just as I don't think all working mothers want one blanket statement for them!!!"

That was always a weak argument for me, that whole "But I'm _____ and I'm not like that, don't lump." That says nothing of my personal experiences whatsoever. As if I am just going to disregard all the verbal abuse I have gotten from sahms because of what you claim you are. In fact, I wouldn't even believe that you are not like that until I heard your reasons from your mouth about why you sah.

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Registered: 10-05-2007
In reply to: mom2ajoy
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 5:02pm

You sah now?

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Ducky

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Registered: 01-15-2006
In reply to: mom2ajoy
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 3:14pm

you raise a good point.....i know when we lived in a different town,when we only had one dd and found that RIGHT sitter,she was like part of the family,she did help raise her.

 

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Registered: 10-13-2007
In reply to: mom2ajoy
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 2:13pm

I would say "most" is almost an understatement. IMHO, almost all of SAHM's would say they don't want a day care raising their child.


Lori

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Registered: 08-26-2007
In reply to: mom2ajoy
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 11:21am
I can have unlimited excused absences as long as I find someone to replace me, which is relatively easy. But, it's unpaid as well. We don't need my income, but still. There have been people at work who took an entire month off this way, and had it excused and all was well.
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Registered: 06-08-2007
In reply to: mom2ajoy
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 11:10am
I could take 8 days off a year, that's sick,vacation,everything. At first it was ok, I was making it just taking the occasional weekend off every few months or the occasional day off, but it was unpaid so it always hurt. But finally I couldn't do it anymore, now
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Registered: 08-26-2007
In reply to: mom2ajoy
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 11:04am
It's already starting to be a drag, realizing that I can't go to church now. But, I must admit, being home M-F is really starting to be nice. For me, that is. It's a much needed break.
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Registered: 06-08-2007
In reply to: mom2ajoy
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 11:01am
I worked weekends only for many years. It was great at first, but at about year 2-3, it gets to be a drag never having a weekend like everyone else, even though you have 5 days off every week. That was my only issue, lack of weekend.

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