No napping allowed?

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No napping allowed?
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Wed, 07-13-2011 - 2:14pm

What do you think about this?

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Registered: 02-24-2010
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 12:04pm

Yes we do the same thing.

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 12:29pm

To me, a curfew is someting you implement if there is a problem. If the child can set reasonable limits for him/herself, then they are not needed.

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Registered: 02-21-2003
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 12:29pm

Yes you assumed right .. post HS age. I'm trying to remember if I had a curfew as well; I do remember having a 1030-ish rule for being in unless a different time was decided upon (I guess by def, that is a curfew). As long as they lived at home the family agreement was that common courtesy dictated to let me know a ballpark time to expect to hear the door. 3 out of 4 of them were excellent about it and the one who tested our patience gave us a few grey hairs. We needed to be exactly specific with him no matter his age and dh did end up getting him out of some tight squeezes over the years. He was also known for the most creative excuses for why he was late.

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Mon, 07-18-2011 - 12:42pm

i'm waiting for a problem to arise but so far, we've been very lucky.

 

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 12:45pm
whew, it was a guess..and i agree, i lvied at home for a long time, i didn't really have a curfew anymore in my 20s but there were these rules, quirky or not, because you lived under their roof. common courtesy and respect has a lot to do with it!

 

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Registered: 02-21-2003
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 1:04pm
Yes definitely. The way we talked about it with them was, no matter who you live with over the course of your lifetime, you'll get along better as friends, roommates, spouses etc if you consider the other person regarding what to expect re coming in at night. Therefore ... mom being the worrier that she is will need to know as well :) The baby is 23.
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Mon, 07-18-2011 - 1:07pm
I'm thankful that so far, we haven't had any issues either, but my kids are just starting highschool. I'm guessing that the pushing of boundaries will come more, as they become more independent and closer to adulthood, learning to set their own boundaries. Discussing what time one is expected to return home, and adhering to common courtesy, can be acheived w/out an arbitrary curfew being set.
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Registered: 04-16-2010
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 1:08pm
Well, I don't necessariy agree. I think that helping a child set reasonable limits is fair, but I don't think that a curfew is the only way to set limits.
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