No napping allowed?

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Registered: 12-07-2003
No napping allowed?
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Wed, 07-13-2011 - 2:14pm

What do you think about this?

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Registered: 08-22-2009
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 1:32pm

That is how it was with my kids (and with me as a teen).

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Registered: 02-24-2009
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 2:12pm

But why do you think it is "ridiculous"?

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Registered: 02-24-2009
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 2:16pm

"Discussing what time one is expected to return home, and adhering to common courtesy, can be acheived w/out an arbitrary curfew being set."

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 2:17pm

I've been trying to think whether or not I had a curfew as a teenager, but I don't think I did.





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Registered: 02-24-2009
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 2:18pm

"Teens are kind of adults in training and adults do not leave the house with a set time they need to be home they go home when they are done with their plans."

Yes, exactly what I mean by teaching them to set their own boundaries, rational and reasonable ones.

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Registered: 02-24-2009
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 2:20pm

That is how we did it with dd as well, except they usually were out, not at someone's house, and by the time they were past 12-13, they often stayed out later than 11.

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 2:38pm

I think the only times I got home past 11pm was when I was babysitting for a family who stayed out late or if I wasn't planning on coming home at all that night (like for sleepovers or prom/afterprom).





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Registered: 01-15-2006
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 2:53pm

i agree about an event that never lasted past a certain hour.

 

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Registered: 04-16-2010
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 3:08pm
Just taggin on here, with an example. We went out (the family) on Friday night. the *event* didn't start until 7pm. But, many people were late, and the event didn't really get going until after 8. I had it in my head, to take my kids home and have them in bed around 9. But, at 9pm, the host of the event had started a fire, and all of the kids were roasting marshmallows. They kids were behaving well, we were having a good time, and we didnt have any plans for the next morning. Dh and I decided to stay later than we had originally planned.

As an adult, I have that freedom. Having an arbitrary time that we had to be home would have been silly, and disappointing for all of us.
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Registered: 04-16-2010
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 3:09pm
DD will often stay over, if she babysits past 11. I don't like having to stay up that late waiting for her, lol.

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