Not a debate...more a request for advice

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Not a debate...more a request for advice
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Mon, 03-31-2003 - 8:26am
Does anyone have any good advice for a working mom on making a "break" from work at the end of the day and on weekends, so I don't always feel like a working mom. A lot of the time I do that well...but sometimes I feel that thinking about work can interfere with home life.

Also, does anyone ever feel that their job **is** their life and that somehow their home life is the **extra** on top of work.

BTW, I don't work very long hours, or travel...but I've been promoted recently and I'm finding that my job is demanding more from me...

Kat

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Thu, 04-03-2003 - 10:47am
FYI - the organisms that cause food poisoning only reproduce between 40 and 140 degrees Farenheit. As long as the food is kept at a temperature higher than 140 degrees, food safety shouldn't be a concern. My mother fed us for many years with crockpot meals, and none of us ever got food poisoning.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 04-03-2003 - 10:26am
Thank you for the replies...you all had some great advice. One of the things that someone said which made me feel better is that we do spend more time at home during the week than on the weekends. I also liked the idea of planning for the next day and winding down at the end of the work day...instead of working up to the last second and making a mad dash out the door. Also, the crockpot doesn't scare me from a fire perspective...it scares me from a food safety perspective...does the food really stay okay after all those hours of no refrigeration????

Kat

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Registered: 04-01-2003
Tue, 04-01-2003 - 11:46pm
I SAH and I love my crock pot! I am usually at home when it is on, but I have left for the whole day before, and never had any problems. I suggest you invest in the "Fix and Forget Slow Cooker Cookbook" and give it a try. It really is a timesaver, and the recipes in the book are fantastic! :)

April

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Registered: 03-21-2001
Tue, 04-01-2003 - 10:45pm
My job is pretty demanding, and I find that it's often hard to leave it at work. Of course, that's in part because I *can't* leave it at home. I often have to plan my days and schedule when I'm at home.

I don't have kids. I have husband who does 50% of the housework. That's no joke. Sometimes, he does 60-70%. We live with a dirty house. We occasionally (twice a month) take 2 hours on Saturday to clean - this is on top of our normal duties (laundry, cooking). But half the time, we skip that. When the bathroom sink is getting grody, I just wipe it up with the washcloth sitting there, rinse it, and hang it to dry. When the kitchen floor gets sticky, I wear socks until the weekend.

When you have help with the housework, it's easier. I try new recipes now and again so that cooking is "fun", not a chore. My job does feel like my life, but this year, I've been making an effort to change that. Whenever possible I leave work after working less than 9 hours (my typical day for the last 3 years was 9-10 hours). This helps make me feel human. I get up at 5 or 6 am and run or go to the gym, every day. This is my time to think and daydream and just get away from everything. I schedule nights out scrapbooking or days out quilting - nope, I don't get dishes, cooking, or cleaning done, but so what?

And occasionally, like tonight, I spend an hour on the internet. I think I'm going to go pack my lunch, have another glass of wine, and do some crocheting, though.

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Tue, 04-01-2003 - 10:35pm
I've only used the crockpot one day when I was at work - it was on from 8 am to about 6 pm.

Crockpots are generally safe from electrical problems - they are designed that way. Is your house's electricity safe? If so, you should be ok.

In any event, that's what they are for! If you feel uncomfortable - use your crockpot and cook all day (8 hours) on the weekends. Do it 5-10 times, until you are comfortable with the fact that you won't burn your house down. Then, use it while you are at work.

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Registered: 04-01-2003
Tue, 04-01-2003 - 3:23pm
Personally, I'd rather have the house burn down when I'M NOT IN IT!

I am a compulsive lint trap cleaner and I am the doubler checker at night

for coffee pot and candles and...

But when I'm away... I don't think about it, That's what insurance is for

isn't it???

Mary Beth
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Tue, 04-01-2003 - 3:08pm
Your mother would go nuts here. The only thing I unplug is the iron and then only because I only use it once every 10 years.

We did have one spontaneous combustion though. Would you believe the rabbits litter box spontaneously combusted (we were using wood chips)??? By the time I figured out where the smoke was coming from, the litter box had melted into the carpet.

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Tue, 04-01-2003 - 3:04pm
No, lol. I don't set it next to anything flamable. It doesn't get hot enough to start a fire. It would have to short and then the circuit breakers should trip.
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Tue, 04-01-2003 - 12:32pm
LOL here! I don't have a crockpot, but I remember my mother using hers all the time, and nobody was home to watch it. (I think that was sort of the point???) And she always started the dishwasher on way out of the house -- I remember HER mother giving her he%% for that.

DH got me a coffee pot that automatically turns off, after I accidently left the old one turned on when we were away for a whole weekend. No, the house didn't burn down. The glass carafe didn't even crack!

That's just my family, a bunch of crazy risk-takers. Tempting fate, that's our game.

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Tue, 04-01-2003 - 12:18pm
I've been around my mother WAY too long to trust an appliance at home without me.LOL My mom is a freak about these things...all small appliances must be unplugged when not in use, to prevent spontaneous combustion (please note: this is her idea, not mine!) The microwave is somehow exempt...I think because it has a clock. Coffee makers left plugged in are just a disaster waiting to happen. A toaster oven plugged in? Why not just light a match and throw it in the floor? :-P

I'm not as bad as she is, but I do have a healthy respect for appliances and their potential for havoc. I don't leave the washer, dryer or dishwasher on while I'm not home, and I'm a compulsive lint-trap cleaner. I guess no matter how hard it tries, the apple really doesn't fall too far from the tree.LOL


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