Not a mom but stay at home wife

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Not a mom but stay at home wife
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Mon, 03-08-2010 - 11:14am

Ok here is my story. I am not a mom - not able to have kids. I recently left my job because of the economy. The company I worked for cut my hours to 2 days a week and even with the cut there was not enough work to keep me busy all day. I would only have enough work for 3 hours of work. So it made no sense to commute 60 miles round trip for 3 hours of work therefore I decided to quit.


I am looking for another office

Shell

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Registered: 08-22-2009
Mon, 03-08-2010 - 11:25am

Change can be hard and you just went through a big change.

You may find out over time that being at home does feel more "normal" to you or it may not. Since your income is not needed I would not worry about that aspect.

You are actually in a good situation to be in. If I were in the same (my income not needed but I preferred to work) then I would look for work but only except something that I really liked, not just take any job that came along.

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Mon, 03-08-2010 - 12:03pm
((HUG)) I agree with emptynester, you may come to like it or you may not. If not, you are in an excellent position to try to find a job that you really love. Have you considered going back to school?














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Registered: 01-03-2000
Mon, 03-08-2010 - 12:54pm

This morning

Shell
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Mon, 03-08-2010 - 1:42pm

After reading your post about the dull job you found, then immediately quit, I had to respond. It sounds as if you took the first thing that came along without considering whether it would be something you'd enjoy. What you took was so dreadful that I gather you don't really know what you want to do.


If I were you, I would not waste another minute looking for work. Instead, I'd sign up for career counseling--the kind where you take tests to determine your interests and skills--and then try to find work or go back to school.


If you don't have a college degree, this would be the time to earn one, but only after you receive some career counseling. If you do have a bachelor's degree, there's nothing wrong with taking some additional courses in a field that interests you. This whole thing may be a blessing in disguise for you, because you might find out for the first time what you really want to do for a living. But do not accept some

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Mon, 03-08-2010 - 1:48pm

Sweetie, I'd just give it some time.

Christine
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Registered: 04-22-2005
Mon, 03-08-2010 - 1:48pm
Eww, crappy job. I'm glad that you're looking into taking classes. Is there a reason why you prefer online classes? Going to class in person could help give you some of the daily structure that you need, and it would get you out of the house, too.














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Registered: 04-22-2005
Mon, 03-08-2010 - 4:50pm
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Registered: 01-03-2000
Mon, 03-08-2010 - 5:00pm

Hi Christine


I have volunteered in the past. In fact when I quit the job that reduced my hours to 2 days, I went to the hospital to volunteer.

Shell
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Registered: 11-13-2009
Mon, 03-08-2010 - 6:38pm

Hi Shell!


Sounds like you have an outlet for volunteering--sorry to hear you have a cold though.

Christine
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Registered: 02-04-2009
Mon, 03-08-2010 - 8:29pm

There are tons of things you can do. With the economy so bad, plenty of charities have a need for volunteer help on a scale not recently seen. Play to your strengths--look for charities that interest you and offer your expertise.

And don't beat yourself up so much. It's a transition to go from WOH full time to SAH full-time whether you're a Mom or a wife...or just retired. Look at this as the freedom to really experiment with what interests you, without having to make a long-term commitment. Offer volunteer services for 3 to 6 months, for example. Gives the charity a chance to 'test-drive' you and gives you the chance to test-drive their organization. See if you like it. See if you like the work.

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