Not a mom but stay at home wife

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Not a mom but stay at home wife
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Mon, 03-08-2010 - 11:14am

Ok here is my story. I am not a mom - not able to have kids. I recently left my job because of the economy. The company I worked for cut my hours to 2 days a week and even with the cut there was not enough work to keep me busy all day. I would only have enough work for 3 hours of work. So it made no sense to commute 60 miles round trip for 3 hours of work therefore I decided to quit.


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Registered: 04-16-2010
Mon, 09-13-2010 - 11:24am

Yep.

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Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 09-13-2010 - 11:06am

My next door neighbor is in that category, she is actually taking care of her elderly grandfather, and she is really nice, she sends her three kids to Sunday School with me and she is always asking me if there is something she can to at home like prepare craft kits or snacks to send in. I gave her my Sunday School roll and the kids' birthdays and she sends cards from the church to the kids for me. So she makes it happen. She's a great woman.

I never assume I know what anyone else is dealing with or what their circumstances are, because once you get to know someone, you can find out that they are struggling with all kinds of issues that might not be apparent if you only have a PTA-type acquaintance with them.

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Registered: 02-23-2010
Mon, 09-13-2010 - 10:36am
ITA with you. IME with many SAHM's they are not taking care of anyone else and have the time to volunteer in the school and elsewhere as they have a extra 7 hours a day.
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Mon, 09-13-2010 - 8:50am

and those are exceptions.

 

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Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 09-13-2010 - 8:06am
I can't accept that as an across the board statement. A SAHM might be taking care of a parent with Alzheimers who can't be left alone, have a sick child with numerous medical appointments every week, be homeschooling eight kids, etc. She might be much busier and have more of her times tied up than the WOH parent of one child who has a flexible job and a housekeeper.
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Registered: 11-22-2000
Mon, 09-13-2010 - 7:16am

I'm totally in those shoes, but I am usually able to find time for volunteer work. I think that volunteering is another of those situations where if it's important to you, you're going to find a way to do it.



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Registered: 07-17-2007
Mon, 09-13-2010 - 7:14am
Just because a person has *less* time to volunteer doesn't mean they can't or don't.
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Registered: 07-17-2007
Mon, 09-13-2010 - 7:13am
It isn't, which is my point if you read through the thread.
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Registered: 02-04-2009
Mon, 09-13-2010 - 6:49am
I don't believe I ever said someone with a job has as much time to volunteer as someone without a job. I said that having a low paying job didn't ever preclude me from volunteering.

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Mon, 09-13-2010 - 6:29am

not to dig up an old argument but IME, those who don't have paid for jobs have more time to volunteer.

 

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