Not a mom but stay at home wife

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Not a mom but stay at home wife
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Mon, 03-08-2010 - 11:14am

Ok here is my story. I am not a mom - not able to have kids. I recently left my job because of the economy. The company I worked for cut my hours to 2 days a week and even with the cut there was not enough work to keep me busy all day. I would only have enough work for 3 hours of work. So it made no sense to commute 60 miles round trip for 3 hours of work therefore I decided to quit.


I am looking for another office

Shell
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Thu, 03-11-2010 - 12:35am
Yesterday was a hard day for me. I had two errands to run and I could not wait to get back home. I was so uncomfortable being out and about. All I want to do is cry. I am so miserable.
Shell
Shell
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Registered: 02-06-2009
Thu, 03-11-2010 - 8:24am

That sounds like you might be depressed, maybe with a little agoraphobia. You should see your doctor.


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Thu, 03-11-2010 - 9:19am

I wouldn't call in agoraphobia I just kept thinking that I should be working not going to the store. I felt like everyone was thinking "why is she not working". Tried to tell myself that working people get days off during the week. Or what makes today any different than when I worked part time. The job I quit in Jan of this year I had worked at for nearly 2 years was only part time. Yet I did not have an issue running errands then. I feel I should be home job searching 24/7. Hubby said to take a month off from job hunting so that I can deal with what just happened. I feel if I do that I might miss an opportunity.


Going to try and go out and about today because the weather is suppose to be 68 here today! Would love to work in my flower beds but the ground is too wet and mushy.


Shell
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Registered: 01-09-2009
Thu, 03-11-2010 - 10:35am
I agree, it sounds like some depression, and maybe a little bit of anxiety.

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Ducky

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Thu, 03-11-2010 - 10:47am

I had basically the same thing happen to me in 2008. Lost my job at the end of January and went from working 60 hour weeks between my full time job and part time "fun money" job (or previously working a full time job while going to full time school) to getting 15 hours a week at my "fun money" job and feeling totally worthless. By April, I'd applied for close to 50 jobs, had one or two interviews that had went no where, and totally felt worthless. My poor DH, by the time he walked in the door, I was so ready to talk his ear off and go out and go somewhere and do SOMETHING because I was so bored from sitting home alone all day without the company of anyone but the pets.

In June, I went to a craft fair and ended up at the local humane society's booth. I ended up becoming a volunteer there and soon was spending 20-30 hours a week helping out. It wasn't paid work but it gave me something to do, got me out of the house, and made me feel like I was doing SOMETHING with myself. The difference in my demeanor and attitude about life by mid-July was noticeable to all who knew me and had watched me become depressed.

When I finally did find a full time job in October, I was able to pick the "best" of two options and was actually really sad to not be able to spend my 30 hours a week doing my volunteer work, but I continued doing that on the weekends.

In the end, I really think volunteering saved my sanity, as well as helped me make new friends and I have no doubt that I helped the animals at the shelter too. While I would never want to be unemployed for that long again, I definitely wouldn't spend those three-four months sitting home waiting for something positive to happen like I did back then because now I know better!

Hope everythign works out for the best for you!


Pregnancy%20ticker
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Registered: 11-13-2009
Thu, 03-11-2010 - 3:09pm

Oh, sweetie--I'm so sorry you're feeling miserable!

Christine
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Fri, 03-19-2010 - 10:06pm

Thanks Rose,


That really meant a lot. Last weekend I contact the volunteer cordinator at the hospital and advised her I was available to come back and volunteer. She was very excited to have me come back. In fact the hospital had came up with another area of the hospital that a volunteer could possibly help out in. I was in the surgerical care unit helping out at the hostess desk. The girls who register patients needs help with paging family members once surgery is done and advising the family which conference room to go to in order

Shell
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Registered: 02-04-2009
Fri, 03-19-2010 - 11:46pm

Volunteering in charities in a capacity close to what you used to do professionally is a very good way to network and find out about paid positions you might not otherwise hear about. If you can impress someone with your work ethic when you're NOT being paid to do the work, they will be more confident of your work ethic once you start pulling a check.

Congratulations, it sounds like you really like your new volunteer position.

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Kitty

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Kitty

"If you can't annoy somebody with what you write, I think there's little point in writing."-- Kingsley Amis, British novelist, 1971 t .

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Sat, 03-20-2010 - 8:02am

Yes Kitty you are right.


Shell
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Registered: 02-04-2009
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 8:32am

It is spam. And it's been reported.

Hugs and kisses,
noob

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Kitty

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Kitty

"If you can't annoy somebody with what you write, I think there's little point in writing."-- Kingsley Amis, British novelist, 1971 t .