Not a mom but stay at home wife

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Not a mom but stay at home wife
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Mon, 03-08-2010 - 11:14am

Ok here is my story. I am not a mom - not able to have kids. I recently left my job because of the economy. The company I worked for cut my hours to 2 days a week and even with the cut there was not enough work to keep me busy all day. I would only have enough work for 3 hours of work. So it made no sense to commute 60 miles round trip for 3 hours of work therefore I decided to quit.


I am looking for another office

Shell
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Registered: 01-05-2000
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 11:16am

It is too. Not ever on topic either. But I'll give you marks for being all in our faces about it. So how many message boards did you grace with your presence. Or are we just special?

Chris

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Tue, 04-06-2010 - 11:34pm

This is not the same thing as being a permanent SAHW.

Many people are like this when they are unemployed. Men too. My husband isn't employed right now, but doesn't refer to himself as a SAHH. He considers his "job" to be searching for work.

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Registered: 11-30-2008
Mon, 08-23-2010 - 11:08am

I agree that if you're looking for work then you're not really a SAHW.

bigbro
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Registered: 07-10-2010
Sat, 09-11-2010 - 9:04pm

I would love to agree with you, and I think volunteer work is great. But many employers don't take it seriously. They tend to discount volunteer work and still see it as a gap on your resume, particularly in corporate jobs and the business world.

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Sun, 09-12-2010 - 6:27am
It depends on the volunteer job. Many volunteer jobs are have real meat to them and would be paying jobs if the non-profit had enough money and frequently are paying jobs at better funded non-profits.
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Registered: 07-10-2010
Sun, 09-12-2010 - 2:29pm

I am sure they do have real meat to them, and require a lot of commitment. Some non-profits do have the money to hire people but as long as they have committed volunteers, there is little incentive to do so. If I truly needed an income, I would not be able to volunteer.

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Sun, 09-12-2010 - 2:41pm

"Some non-profits do have the money to hire people but as long as they have committed volunteers, there is little incentive to do so. "

Actually, I haven't seen that. I have seen non-profits hire volunteers for jobs frequently and be very happy when they can finally pay a dedicated volunteer. In fact, in its one way to get a job in the non-profit world, volunteer where you want to work.

"If I truly needed an income, I would not be able to volunteer."

I don't understand this. I have always volunteered regardless of my job status.






Edited 9/12/2010 2:42 pm ET by tryingtoquit
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Sun, 09-12-2010 - 5:38pm

Lots of people can't volunteer because they are just trying to eke out a living. They may be a single parent, they may have to work two jobs, or they may not even have a car to drive anywhere. That makes it a struggle. They might be able to do a good turn for someone here and there, but they can't do volunteer work on a regular basis. That may be difficult to understand if you've never been in their shoes, though.

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Sun, 09-12-2010 - 5:58pm
I have lived on very little money and still was able to volunteer. I understand that it may be more difficult and people might not want to, but if the will is there, it is achievable.
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Registered: 02-04-2009
Mon, 09-13-2010 - 5:18am

As a single parent who has often earned barely enough (and sometimes not nearly enough) to get by, I have never had a problem finding ways to volunteer.

On the other hand, for those who are committed to pretending they can't, they are usually successful.

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