OK This scares me......

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Registered: 05-13-2003
OK This scares me......
Thu, 01-24-2008 - 11:02pm

I have four kids. I worked full time for a year after my oldest was born and had horrible day care problems. My oldest daughter had constant ear infections, etc. etc. I quit after my son was born the following year and started working part time at night and then my husband stayed with the kids at night. After my third one was born, I quit my job and was a full time SAHM for 7 years. I started working part time again about two years ago and work maybe 15 hours a week.

This is what scares me. My oldest daughter was complaining about school to my FIL. Then he told her she needed to work hard at school to get a job when she is older. This is what she says in reply, "I'm not gonna have a job when I'm older. I'm gonna let my husband work." This horrifies me. She is thirteen years old and all I want for her is to have a good education and to be able to grow up to support herself. That is one of the reasons I stayed home. Now I feel that somehow I have been a horrible example for my children. Not to mention the fact that I now have my youngest in Kindergarten and my days are so long. I am thirty six years old and I feel like I have almost reached a point where it is too late to establish a "career."

When I was in my twenties, I felt so sure that I was doing the right thing by quitting full time work to stay home with my children, but now that I have four children in school I am wondering if I have done the right thing.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 01-26-2008 - 10:24pm

Well my mom was a full time SAHM for 18 years and I never felt I should SAH too. I've been a mom and a career woman.

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Sat, 01-26-2008 - 8:50pm
My daughter, who is the same age, has also never mentioned wanting to SAH. She did ask me what I did all day, though, so perhaps she disliked my answer and ruled out SAH.
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Registered: 10-04-2007
Sat, 01-26-2008 - 1:27pm

Not at all.

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Registered: 01-25-2008
Fri, 01-25-2008 - 5:48pm
Madeleine Albright was a stay at home mom who went to college to get her PhD while her kids were in school but didn't really start working until her children were grown. You are never too old to start a successful career.
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Fri, 01-25-2008 - 5:19pm
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Fri, 01-25-2008 - 4:24pm

<ds,only 5,has told me he wants to grow up to be just bigger than he is now.

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Fri, 01-25-2008 - 4:23pm


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Registered: 10-05-2007
Fri, 01-25-2008 - 4:11pm

Oh, I do.



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Registered: 01-05-2000
Fri, 01-25-2008 - 4:05pm

So true.


The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Fri, 01-25-2008 - 3:56pm
I've said this to liza more times than I can count LOL
"If gay Americans are not allowed to get married and have all the benefits that American citizens are entitled to by the Bill of Rights, they should get one hell of a tax break. That is my opinion,"

- Jeane "Dear Abby" Phillips, in an interview with Lisa Leff.


Yes. We. Did.