Older kids and WOH

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Older kids and WOH
Thu, 07-05-2007 - 12:09pm

What are the options for a WOHM with older kids who don't go to daycare anymore but still need some supervision, say 11-16 year olds?


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Thu, 07-05-2007 - 12:18pm
I'm a teacher with two boys, ages 11 and 15. I only work part time in the summer, but I don't like the kids at home alone too many hours in a row, period. They go to summer camps, volunteer in various capacities, the younger one does a three week summer school orchestra program, etc.
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Registered: 01-10-2007
Thu, 07-05-2007 - 12:19pm

My daycare provides before/after care up to age 12. The local YMCA provides it up to age 14 I believe.

That said, dd (who will only be 11 this coming school year) will be riding the bus home and staying by herself for about 1.5 hours after school. They don't provide transportation to/from the middle school for the before/after programs, so we can't really utilize that. Dd is a fairly reponsible, well-behaved kid, so we think she'll be fine for 1.5 hours. If we see any signs that it isn't working, we'll find a way to get her to the daycare that ds attends for before/after care.

As to summer and school holidays, dd will go to the daycare center for another few years.

Edited 7/5/2007 12:19 pm ET by son.of.adam
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Thu, 07-05-2007 - 12:19pm
My son is 13 & he stays home by himself. I was worried about it at first because of his mobility issues, but it's turned into a really great experience for him. I trust him not to do anything terribly stupid...he's the kind of kid who is hyper-aware of rules and asks permission for EVERYTHING (sometimes to the point of being maddening) so I don't see him getting too wild & crazy while I'm gone. He seems to be a little more afraid of me than I actually deserve.LOL

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Thu, 07-05-2007 - 12:24pm

My oldest is currently 11 years old.


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Registered: 11-08-2006
Thu, 07-05-2007 - 12:42pm
we have a year-round live-out nanny.
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Thu, 07-05-2007 - 4:04pm
The people I know who are dualwoh and have children in the 11-16 year old set do a mixture of the following: Camp CITs, swim team, babysitting, mothers helpers, mowing lawns, tennis team, farms kids to grandmas for x amount of time, local teen center program is for rising 6th through rising 8th graders, still have a nanny/au pair.
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Thu, 07-05-2007 - 5:46pm

my oldest will be 10 next month and my youngest is only 4 1/2. i sah but my hopes are to return to a job that works around their school schedule. that would be my ideal,anyway. lol....my mom had six children and she returned to work when our youngest started school. we came home to an empty home for a couple hours every day and i truly believe that trust was earned because of the example she set sah in the early years.


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Thu, 07-05-2007 - 5:58pm

My DDs were 12, 10 and 6 when I went back to work. For the first three years I work for school districts so school breaks was not an issue.

The first summer that I worked my DDs were 16, 14 and 10. I never had a trust issue but I did not want to work full time because it was their vacation time, if I was at work all day then they were pretty much stuck at home all day.

Luckily I was able to cut back my hours in the summer. Each year my work load has increased but the first few years I was able to get home by about 12:30, the next few years 1:30-2:00. I have only worked full time in she summer (getting home abotu 4:00-4:30) the last couple of years.

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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 12:52am

Dylan is 9. Up until this summer, he went back to his daycare for non school days. This summer, he splits his days between the shop (in the morning through lunch) and the Boys and Girls Club (from 1-6pm; I usually leave the shop by 5pm). He will be doing that until a) he's too old for the Boys and Girls Club or b) he has demonstrated the maturity to stay home alone when it's legal for him to do so. If he isn't old enough to stay home alone legally or he can't be trusted yet to consistantly use common sense when home alone, he will go to the shop with me until he is.


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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 1:25am

I work from home when I'm not travelling, so ds rarely comes home to an empty house.