Out sourcing the job of loving your kids

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Out sourcing the job of loving your kids
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Sat, 03-27-2010 - 12:40pm

http://www.parentsask.com/organization/working-mothers/working-vs-stay-home-moms-if-you-work-are-you-outsourcing-job-loving-yo


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Working vs. Stay at home moms: If you work, are you outsourcing the job of loving your kids?

  • Romi Lassally

    on Wed Oct 14 2009, 9:57pm UTC | 8 comments










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    Just when you thought it was safe to go back in the water, to the office, Dr. Phil airs a segment that will no doubt have working moms up in arms.

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    Sat, 03-27-2010 - 12:52pm
    Dr. Phil would sell his own mother for air time.

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    Sat, 03-27-2010 - 12:58pm
    When I was a SAHM my kids spent some time in daycare. As a WOHM my kids spent no time in daycare. So I guess I was a loving mom as a WOHM but a neglectful mom who farmed them out as a SAHM.


    Edited 3/27/2010 1:00 pm ET by emptynester2009
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    Sat, 03-27-2010 - 1:06pm
    LOL~

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    Sat, 03-27-2010 - 1:23pm
    What a great example of how ridiculous this women sounds.
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    Sat, 03-27-2010 - 3:42pm
    How sad that this person feels that there is nothing more to loving one's children beyond supervision.














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    Sat, 03-27-2010 - 9:49pm

    And it contains my biggest pet peeves.... condescension and pity for women who have no choice but to work. Blech.

    If you are going to make a stand, make it all the way. If you think working mothers harm children, then even the kids of mothers who HAVE to work are harmed. Pansy a$$ woman.

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    Sat, 03-27-2010 - 11:29pm

    I suppose that means that I loved Erica and Angela more than Joy and Dylan. That's going to come as a great surprise to Erica. It's never an either/or decision that is only made once and forever after set in stone. And what about all the other things that most families outsource for their kids' benefit? Education, medical, religious training to name what comes to mind.

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    Sun, 03-28-2010 - 3:54am

    I honestly find this distinction between "have to" and "choose to" work so completely nonsensical. If daycare is bad and evil, then it is bad and evil, period. If it is not bad and evil, then it isn't, period. The reason why the kid is there is truly immaterial.

    Where I live, most people who can afford it have some kind of daycare, nanny or babysitting for the kids, whether both parents work or not. Where I grew up, most kids start daycare at age 1, and most mothers work. However, even kids with SAHMs usually go to daycare, even if they start a little later than age 1.

    This idea that a loving mother must be with her kids 24/7 and must interact with them incessantly is really both young and limited in geographic spread. Not long ago, most SAHMs were either upper middle class or else farm wives. The farm wives did not sit and do crafts and play patty cake with the munchkins, because most of the time mom was working, hard. The kids either worked or entertained each other. Perhaps there was a grandma or aunt around as well to deal with the kids some of the time. The upper middle class mother did not do these things either. She managed the household and took care of her social obligations. Maids, nannies and governesses minded the kids.

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    Sun, 03-28-2010 - 3:58am
    LOL, yes, I like the way you put that.

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    Sun, 03-28-2010 - 11:44am
    dr.phil is usually good about softening up an argument like noted in the last paragraph.

     

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