Outsourcing our 'domestic demands'

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Outsourcing our 'domestic demands'
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Thu, 03-13-2008 - 10:55pm

About 10 yrs ago I was listening to a VP at my company (fortune 500) and realized that she had it all - the career/kids/husband (not in any particular order).

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Registered: 10-24-2007
Mon, 03-17-2008 - 11:34am

Now you're just being snippy. :p

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-17-2008 - 11:38am
If you were the WOHP, would you be okay letting your spouse do virtually all of the cleaning?

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Registered: 03-17-2008
Mon, 03-17-2008 - 11:46am
What does DH do while nanny is there?
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Registered: 03-17-2008
Mon, 03-17-2008 - 11:49am

Great post!!!!!

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Registered: 03-17-2008
Mon, 03-17-2008 - 11:58am
I don't get it. Parents preach about teaching responsiblity to their children by cleaning up.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 03-17-2008 - 11:58am

swear to God on my mothers grave -- NEVER entered my mind. Ijust want my house clean.


seriously.

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Registered: 10-24-2007
Mon, 03-17-2008 - 12:02pm

If my and my DH's situations were exactly reversed, with me having the career that he does and the hours and shifts that come with it as part and parcel of the job, and he were at home with one child and able to fit his sporadic freelance work in quite easily when she was sleeping or at school, then yes, absolutely.


In reality, he'd be miserable as a SAHD and I'd be miserable doing what he does (not to mention completely unqualified!), so it's hard to seriously imagine that.

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Registered: 10-24-2007
Mon, 03-17-2008 - 12:21pm

>>In our case, it's 90 minutes every two weeks. Surely it's no biggie to plan a trip to the grocery store or a playdate for that short a time?<<


6 minutes a day....to me the hassle (if hassle = unnecessary annoyance) of even having to be there at a certain time to let them in, and to leave certain areas dirty for a day or two because the cleaner's coming on Friday and that's what they're planning on doing, would outweight the benefit of saving myself 6 whole minutes a day.

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Mon, 03-17-2008 - 12:48pm

So, you recognize that if you see doing all your own housework as one of many ways to help instill personal responsibility in yourselves and in your kids, and the choice to use it or not as essentially value-free.

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Mon, 03-17-2008 - 12:52pm
No double standard at all, simply because using hired help doesn't do away with each and every opportunity to teach personal responsibility.

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