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|Sun, 06-29-2003 - 7:20am|
From my observation a lot of people parent (or plan to parent) teens based on their teen age lives.
Those that needed a lot of control and felt that getting it kept them in line or not getting it was why they had problems tend to try to control their kids.
Those that did not need a lot of control and did just fine without it or were controlled but felt it was overkill tend to give thier kids more say in their lives.
I never had a scheduled bedtime once I started high school. I was able to handle going to bed when needed and getting up on time with no problem. No parents even got up with me on school days, I got up showered, ate and went off to school. I see no reason why my children cannot handle the same responsibility.
I never had a regular curfew. It was based on the plans/event. I never took advantage of it so think that my children can also handle that.
But just to prove that God has a sense of humor he always throws a kink into things. My older DDs are 20 and 18, they made it through high school with no lack of sleep problems and not trying to take advantage of the no set curfew rule. But DD3 is a completely different person then her older sisters. I think that we may have some struggles with her over the issues. But I am still going to give her the same freedom that her sisters had unless she proves that she cannot handle it.