Parents and school involvement

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Registered: 10-17-2003
Parents and school involvement
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Thu, 08-23-2007 - 8:49am

My question stems from a personal experience. My middle child is starting kindergarten next week. I've become fairly close with one of my dd's friend's moms- this is her first child entering the school system. She WOH, I do not, plus I have experience with the school, so she's been calling me with questions and comments.

It started to go bad when she called to complain that the kindy orientation is during the day- when she is working. Then it led to complaints about the parents' read aloud program (when the kids are in library) and other opportunities for volunteerism in the school. I get that these things aren't convenient for her, but I'm getting annoyed with the complaining. How can the kids have an orientation at night when they go to school during the day? None of these events are mandatory for parents or kids. And plenty of activities are scheduled for evenings: Back to school night, the PTA picnic, etc.

She thinks because she can't participate, no one should be able to, apparently. Plenty of WOHP do show up for these things. I think she's being unrealistic if she thought she could put a couple of kids through school without ever taking a vacation day. Am I wrong? Am I missing something here?

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Sat, 09-08-2007 - 12:29pm
it certainly contradicts the put down of lots of moves,too...i don't believe anybody has the right to judge another's situation or best situation esp when you're doing the same thing,just in different form - moving around to find some right school fit. at least i can admit what we've done and why...and fwiw,kids are resilient and put up very well with lots of decisions that they don't get a say so in. God bless 'em.

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 09-08-2007 - 12:30pm
These parents have only been elevated by harassment to Sehorse and now you.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 09-08-2007 - 12:33pm
How would one know if it benefitted the child or not without knowing all the details?

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Sat, 09-08-2007 - 12:34pm
We also have a newsletter that comes out once a month. I am well aware what the kids in all the grades have done and what is coming up for them all.
I don't think I need to talk to the teacher and principal on a regular basis to be in the loop. My dd's teacher also sent home a sheet once a week indicating what grades she got for week, if any homework was missing and how she did (GREAT for me as she has ADHD and I need to keep abreast how she is doing on her medication). I NEVER have felt that I did not know what my child was doing.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 09-08-2007 - 12:35pm

Pumpkinangel specifically has criticized you for moving a lot?

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Sat, 09-08-2007 - 12:38pm

it certainly contradicts the put down of lots of moves,too...i don't believe anybody has the right to judge another's situation or best situation esp when you're doing the same thing,just in different form - moving around to find some right school fit. at least i can admit what we've done and why...and fwiw,kids are resilient and put up very well with lots of decisions that they don't get a say so in. God bless 'em.

When did I "move around to find some right school fit"?????????????????????????

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Sat, 09-08-2007 - 12:42pm
I do not have an "intense dislike" for anyone on this board or in IRL. I just disagree and this is a debate board. ThAT is what you do here.
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Sat, 09-08-2007 - 12:54pm

i was agreeing with the premise of your post somewhat,hazels - that you can't believe kids get into a school,into a routine only to be pulled out a couple years later because parents are searching for some right school fit..the meaning behind my words was just a yea,the opinion throughout this thread that support doing that contradicts opposing lots of residence moves,too. worlds falling apart if they moved away from family and friends but can mix up schools and evaluate placement every year really comes across as hypocritical.

i wasn't saying that you move around looking for some right school. i commend your debate consistencies. :)

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 09-08-2007 - 1:14pm
Yes but some posters here have a more personal dislike for certain posters and criticize them more thoroughly, rather than debating & disagreeing with issues.

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Sat, 09-08-2007 - 1:20pm
I don't kind of get your post as it is just a big run on sentence.

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