Parents and school involvement

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Registered: 10-17-2003
Parents and school involvement
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Thu, 08-23-2007 - 8:49am

My question stems from a personal experience. My middle child is starting kindergarten next week. I've become fairly close with one of my dd's friend's moms- this is her first child entering the school system. She WOH, I do not, plus I have experience with the school, so she's been calling me with questions and comments.

It started to go bad when she called to complain that the kindy orientation is during the day- when she is working. Then it led to complaints about the parents' read aloud program (when the kids are in library) and other opportunities for volunteerism in the school. I get that these things aren't convenient for her, but I'm getting annoyed with the complaining. How can the kids have an orientation at night when they go to school during the day? None of these events are mandatory for parents or kids. And plenty of activities are scheduled for evenings: Back to school night, the PTA picnic, etc.

She thinks because she can't participate, no one should be able to, apparently. Plenty of WOHP do show up for these things. I think she's being unrealistic if she thought she could put a couple of kids through school without ever taking a vacation day. Am I wrong? Am I missing something here?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 09-09-2007 - 5:00pm
You talk to all three of your children's teachers several times a quarter?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 09-09-2007 - 5:02pm
This is quite an idealistic view of the workplace.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 09-09-2007 - 5:04pm

Let me give some insight.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-12-2005
Sun, 09-09-2007 - 5:09pm
I don't think that would really qualify as "cost" though. Besides. dropping some academically isn't necessarily going to mean better socially.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-14-2007
Sun, 09-09-2007 - 5:11pm
No. I didn't say it WOULD happen. I said that is what SHOULD happen. And it *is* what should happen.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 09-09-2007 - 5:13pm
Yep. Sometimes dealing with an abusive boss is just part of paying your dues. Also, just IME, the two bosses I've had who have been the most abusive have been absolutely brilliant. It was worth suffering through some abuse just to learn from them.
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Registered: 08-14-2007
Sun, 09-09-2007 - 5:13pm

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It does to me. I've done it. Twice. There is always another "good job" out there.

And thanks for the offer. But I have insight already. I'm not a naive young thing that's never experienced that type of situation.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-12-2005
Sun, 09-09-2007 - 5:26pm
I didn't see it.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-12-2005
Sun, 09-09-2007 - 5:30pm
Again I ask, which research? Do you have some links?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-12-2005
Sun, 09-09-2007 - 5:35pm

You are jumping to conclusions.

Why would I need to know what is happening in the primary schools on a day to day basis if my kids aren't there? For the record, I am not saying I don't know what is happening, I am just curious as to why you think I should know?

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