Parents and school involvement

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Parents and school involvement
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Thu, 08-23-2007 - 8:49am

My question stems from a personal experience. My middle child is starting kindergarten next week. I've become fairly close with one of my dd's friend's moms- this is her first child entering the school system. She WOH, I do not, plus I have experience with the school, so she's been calling me with questions and comments.

It started to go bad when she called to complain that the kindy orientation is during the day- when she is working. Then it led to complaints about the parents' read aloud program (when the kids are in library) and other opportunities for volunteerism in the school. I get that these things aren't convenient for her, but I'm getting annoyed with the complaining. How can the kids have an orientation at night when they go to school during the day? None of these events are mandatory for parents or kids. And plenty of activities are scheduled for evenings: Back to school night, the PTA picnic, etc.

She thinks because she can't participate, no one should be able to, apparently. Plenty of WOHP do show up for these things. I think she's being unrealistic if she thought she could put a couple of kids through school without ever taking a vacation day. Am I wrong? Am I missing something here?

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Tue, 08-28-2007 - 9:15am
With that attitude, you won't ever make "amazing money" at that company! They won't give you the big bucks first, you have to show them you deserve it.

Mary



Mom to Kevin 11/4/03



Everyone should have kids. They are the greatest joy in the world. But they are also terrorists. You'll realize this as soon as they are born, and they start using sleep deprivation to break you.



Ray Romano, actor/comedian

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Tue, 08-28-2007 - 9:18am

<<With a global economy, who has a slow season anymore??>>


*raising hand*


I work in a hotel. However, our slow season is getting busier so in a few years it'll be tough to tell when "peak" season ends and "off season" begins.

Mary



Mom to Kevin 11/4/03



Everyone should have kids. They are the greatest joy in the world. But they are also terrorists. You'll realize this as soon as they are born, and they start using sleep deprivation to break you.



Ray Romano, actor/comedian

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Tue, 08-28-2007 - 9:21am

<,He doesn't feed, change diapers those are the things he doesn't do.>>


That must be rough. Are your kids all potty trained? For your sake, I hope they are. ;-)

Mary



Mom to Kevin 11/4/03



Everyone should have kids. They are the greatest joy in the world. But they are also terrorists. You'll realize this as soon as they are born, and they start using sleep deprivation to break you.



Ray Romano, actor/comedian

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Tue, 08-28-2007 - 9:25am

I should've read ahead before posting about potty training! ;-)


<<The garbage on the other hand I refuse to haul :)>>


LOL, me too! Somehow I always ended up cleaning out the diaper genie and the cat boxes though, so I guess it evens out.

Mary



Mom to Kevin 11/4/03



Everyone should have kids. They are the greatest joy in the world. But they are also terrorists. You'll realize this as soon as they are born, and they start using sleep deprivation to break you.



Ray Romano, actor/comedian

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Tue, 08-28-2007 - 9:26am

No I still have 2 in diapers, but the 18 month old is taking a real interest in going potty, and had a few times, hopefully she will be ready soon!:)


Shari

 

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Tue, 08-28-2007 - 10:06am

You really have no clue how other people live do you? My DH works for a very large phone company, he has an hourly union job. He makes time and a half over 40 hours a week, anything over 49 in a week is double time, premium pay for Sundays or nights. His direct boss on the other hand is salary. If hourly guys are working overtime he is too(required) but they get paid for it. DH works all the overtime he can get(OT is never required for union workers where he works) and still has plenty of time for his family and he makes MORE then his boss. The benifits are better too and he can't be fired the drop of a hat.

You happen to have a job that doesn't require working over 40 hours many people do not.

Amy

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Tue, 08-28-2007 - 10:06am

It's possible that by only using short-term care situations that you have created the "need" for them to be with you as much as they are. Some of that could be personality-driven as well.

Mine were very different. They LOVED going to dc -- and all the fun and varied activities that they got to do. They had no trouble separating from me in order to do those things.

Carole

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Tue, 08-28-2007 - 10:20am

And if that works for them and they are both happy with it, SO FREAKING WHAT?

Amy

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Tue, 08-28-2007 - 10:31am

Even though I SAH my DH has been puked on far more times then me. I think it's because I know when NOT to move a kid, LOL.

Amy

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Tue, 08-28-2007 - 11:01am

Dh gave Joy her first bath. And it became a tradition. The only thing that he didn't do was breastfeed. But he gave Joy and Dylan bottles while I was at work. Other than breastfeeding, parenting has always been a tag team sport for us. Or us against Erica in her case. :)

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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