Parents and school involvement

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Parents and school involvement
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Thu, 08-23-2007 - 8:49am

My question stems from a personal experience. My middle child is starting kindergarten next week. I've become fairly close with one of my dd's friend's moms- this is her first child entering the school system. She WOH, I do not, plus I have experience with the school, so she's been calling me with questions and comments.

It started to go bad when she called to complain that the kindy orientation is during the day- when she is working. Then it led to complaints about the parents' read aloud program (when the kids are in library) and other opportunities for volunteerism in the school. I get that these things aren't convenient for her, but I'm getting annoyed with the complaining. How can the kids have an orientation at night when they go to school during the day? None of these events are mandatory for parents or kids. And plenty of activities are scheduled for evenings: Back to school night, the PTA picnic, etc.

She thinks because she can't participate, no one should be able to, apparently. Plenty of WOHP do show up for these things. I think she's being unrealistic if she thought she could put a couple of kids through school without ever taking a vacation day. Am I wrong? Am I missing something here?

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Registered: 03-12-2005
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 1:01pm
Your post was way over the top and that is what I was responding too. There is no way you can determine that she and her dh have a bad marriage based on the few things that she said.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 1:02pm

<<I say parents as in meaning a parent mother or father vs a paid care giver.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-12-2005
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 1:03pm
Can you answer my question first please? What didn't your dh learn since he didn't have a father present?
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 1:03pm
I don't think it was over the top. She said more than once that she does not know why he works late and doesn't care. If that is his main priority in life to support his family, I think I would want to be very involved in it.
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Registered: 03-12-2005
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 1:03pm
I don't recall her using those words.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 1:04pm

Ok fair enough, but I think it's faulty logic to assume that Shari's DH, who's the sole financial support of 6 people, is only in his work for a job and not a career and has no interest in getting promoted.


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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 1:05pm
He did not learn how to be a man. He went into the army and learned that.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 1:05pm

Yes, I agree.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 1:05pm
Well I can't go back to all of these posts but she did, it was yesterday afternoon.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 1:06pm
Never said that. Don't you think she could be a little more supportive if he is the sole provider for 6 people then?

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